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female
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36-40,
*eldana
writes:Hey guys, quick question, is it normal that a person feels disgusted with themselves after a three way? Lately it's like I feel like I'm close to tears and I can't stop thinking about it.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (27 September 2011):
 Thanks for the research Tish, puts a new slant on things.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (27 September 2011):
 http://www.dearcupid.org/question/does-him-getting-in-a-huff-about-me.html
So who did you have a threesome with, exactly? Your ex, your FWB or a new guy altogether?
I think your plan is a little silly, really. If you don't have trust and communicate well with your sex partners, it's a bad idea to compound the issue by bringing in third parties or repeating past mistakes. This last mistake made you feel really lousy.
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reader, meldana +, writes (27 September 2011):
meldana is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, here's the thing. I was blindfolded so I never seen the guy. So the thing I'm having trouble is that I never even seen his face. This is what's bothering me and I brought it up with the guy numrous time. What he said is " too bad... wasn't part of the deal. So here's the thing. I was gonna trick them into doing it again and then whipping off the blindfold to get my chance to look at the guy. silly but the only way I know how to have the chane too meet him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2011): If you did something outside your moral boundaries then of course you will feel bad. Would you want your own daughter doing what you did? If not then it is outside your moral boundaries.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (26 September 2011):
All you can do is to learn from it and not repeat it. I know I would feel the same as you if I had a threesome. The real issue is how you got suckered into having one in the first place. Take a good hard look at that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2011): You didn't tell about the conditions it happened, but if you were not prepared and ready for it, it's normal to feel bad because you went beyond your limitations. Girls usually accept it just to please their significant other. Never do something that might hurt yourself because of someone else asked you to do it.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (26 September 2011):
 For some people, they feel sad, others it's another social taboo that they can put on their "credit list" that makes them feel more confident in themselves. Plus some people just like having sex outside the normal bounds.
From the sounds of it, you let yourself down and now you are feeling bad because you feel you made a mistake. Have yourself a cry, but to be honest, you really can't change anything except learn from it and realize that what you did was a mistake and that threesomes aren't for you.
Everybody makes mistakes, some are more serious than others, but the key point is to learn from them and grow as a person and not repeat them. Give yourself some time and eventually the pain and regret will get a bit easier to deal with and you'll be better able to put this in perspective.
Good luck.
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