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writes:Moderator's note: two questions combinedSo I just started taking birth control. I've been on it for about a month now. Me and my boyfriend are usually really good about having safe sex(condom) but a couple weeks ago he didn't use one. He said that he that he pulled out before he came in me but in a way it's hard to believe him because I'm late for my period and I've been having really weird symptoms. Could this be just because I'm new to birth control or is there a good chance that I'm actually pregnant?it it normal to feel depressed or sad after losing your virginity?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 May 2010):
 Sad and depressed - yeah, you're really young, and you only lose it once. If this guy is your age, guys at that age have awful self-control, and it's quite possible that he let a couple of squirts go by before pulling out.
You may be depressed because you might be having second thoughts about the guy. It's not the end of the world. The loss of your virginity isn't the loss of your self. You can still make good decisions now. However, you need to get a pregnancy test, because that's a whole other ballgame.
I would suggest no further sexual activity. You're too young to deal with the risks involved, and sex is a HUGE risk, especially for the girl.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 May 2010):
 Get a pregnancy test to confirm as no conception method is 100%. It could be the stress which caused your period to be late.
There is nothing to be sad or depressed about losing one's virginity.It just happens.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (23 May 2010):
 If you are on birth control and have been taking it correctly, then no, it's near impossible to be pregnant. It's always good to be safe with two methods, but really you don't need both. You'd be safe only using one method. Even if it hasn't been the full month recommended by your doctor, in reality that is just to make sure they can't be sued if you get pregnant. No matter when in your cycle you started taking it, it's effective within seven days. Birth control pills not only can mess with your cycle, but they WILL. Always. If they aren't messing with your cycle, then something's wrong. Birth control pills also can cause side-effects similar to being pregnant. You're almost definitely not pregnant, you don't have to worry. Keep taking your bc exactly as directed and you should let him finish. He doesn't need to pull out anymore. That's the point of going on the pill! Also you should trust him when he says he didn't finish inside you. Trust me, you'd know. Your vagina doesn't just eat it all and it disappears forever. After he cums in you without a condom it sort of leaks and oozes out, a lot. Impossible to miss. I don't think he'd try to lie, since it's pretty easy to tell if a guy orgasms.As for whether you should feel sad, no one can tell you how you should or shouldn't feel, but it's not abnormal.
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