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writes:i have a boyfriend of 6 months whom i love and he loves me back , thing is lately i have found myself a bit attracted to a friend of mine , that friend i have known for 3 months only and we have hell alot in common and i understand him when we talk and vice versa , i never acted on my attraction and never will im not the cheating type just want to know if this is normal , to be really attracted emotionaly , physicaly and mentaly to someone when u supposely love someone else !! take in notice that though me and my bf are in love we have really little in common which never was a major problem sometimes we wish we could enjoy each others stuff and i never really talk about him about any random thoght in my mind i have no idea why ! is this normal too ! Reply to this Question
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reader, Harry Castle  +, writes (28 June 2009):
 If you match with this friend mentally and emotionally, in a soul-mate kind of way, and there's physical attraction, I think you have answered your own question.Matches like this rarely come along, and you would be foolish not to look into taking it further, possibly regretting it for the rest of your life.This is not good news for your current boyfriend, but you must follow your heart, or you will forever be thinking "what if"?I know from personal experience how magical a totally close and compatible relationship can be - it consumes you totally and there is no other feeling like it on the planet!Harry.
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reader, Sexy cat  +, writes (28 June 2009):
It's normal to be attracted to ur boyfriend's friend.I also think it's normal for u to not say a lot of random things that go through ur head, but i think u should talk a lot more things that go around in ur head with him to carry on a conversation.Ihope this hellps :) and good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2009): Well this is why we've evolved into a dating society!
You get with one person and realize you better fit someone else, break up and get with someone else. We keep doing this until we find "the one."
I'd say it is normal for you to find that you like someone else, but not a good sign for your current relationship with your boyrfriend. It's one you may want to reconsider, as it's really not fair for him if you're emotionally caught up in his friend. People are physically attracted to other people all the time, but it's when your emotions play a part that things get sticky and start to hurt others.
So you need to make a decision and do it quickly! Good luck. I hope you find what makes you happy.
~Sy.
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reader, dan026 +, writes (28 June 2009):
 Yes it is normal. When one is in love with another, the individual can still be attracted to others. It is only a problem if you act on your urges. Maybe your current bf isn't the one you should be with but you must seriously contemplate your desires and try to reason why you are so attracted to the other guy, as well as your bf and then make a decision on which guy to pursue. Please, if you choose the other guy then break up with your bf before you even try to pursue a new relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have to clear that he is not my boyfriend's friend , he is a friend of mine . my bf met him only once and i even think he is jealous of him .. please moderators fix that . thank you
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