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*owerslam
writes:Hi,Last week my friends sister who i had asked out previously texted me a few times and eventually asked to meet up.She got a little emotional and eventually just told me that she had only turned me down because she was a little scared as she was only 6 months out of a 8 year relationship. She said she hadn't been able to stop thinking about me and wanting to be with me. We ended up making out really passionately for like 2 hours and texted all the next day.We spent New Years Eve night out with friends at her brothers gig (he doesn't know yet).We ended up back at her friends apartment to the early hours dancing and kissing.The next day i was out with her brother and we were txting the whole time and she asked me to go up to friends apartment that night.She also said that her mother might have let slip that we were together to my friend. I did go up to her friends house that night and walked her home. She asked me in and we just kissed and cuddled on the couch.She asked me to tell her brother about us and also would it be ok if we waited a little while for sex because she wasnt ready yet even though she insists she does want to.She talked about me meeting more of her friends and other quite intimate stuff.I left at 4.30 am. We texted the next day and talked for an hour the next night. Last night we txted a few times and she finished by saying she'd call me later with a smiley.The call didnt arrive but it had been late anyway. Eventually as i was drifting off she texted saying sorry that she didnt ring but her ex had called in. He had a few problems and just needed a friend to talk to. She said she would talk to me today again smiley face, and that she was just watching a movie with her brother.I texted back no problem, hope you're ok ,goodnight.My initialreaction was positive. I thought its great she's so honest and upfront.But during the night i've started to get nervous about it for no reason. Is this wrong seeing as everything has been really positive and i even knew she was friendly with her ex as she had told me before? Should i just be more positive and not be paranoid? Its a long time since i let someone in. Is it normal to be a little anxious at the start of a relationship? PS: I don't show the anxious side of myself to her. I know its not what people want to hear early in a relationship. Would appreciate any insight
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (5 January 2011):
 Your very welcome, i hope it all works out for the both of you. Goodluck.
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reader, powerslam +, writes (4 January 2011):
powerslam is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey, thanks once again for your advice. You actually gave me some great advice a while back about this situation, back when i was confused about the signals she was giving me. I think your advice and me following some of it actually eventually led to her approaching me. So thanks again. I think i've just got to throw myself out there and not worry about things that are beyond my control.Many Thanks
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (4 January 2011):
You say its a long time since you have let anyone in to your life so yes it is normal to feel a little anxious if you are feeling that you are falling for her then yes it is normal.
But as long as you accept that she still has her ex in her life as a friend then things should be ok just dont turn jelous. Just go in to it with your head straight and go with the flow and see what happens. Its good that she is so open and honest with you. Hope it all works out. Goodluck.
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