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writes: There is a 46 year old man working where I work (he's in charge of maintainance) and I am a 20 year old "secretary"... I am pretty attracted to this man and I feel abnormal, strange and guilty. He's quite handsome but I'm very shy so I never approach him or speak to him first. Unfortunately this little crush arose only after I learned that HE mentioned his attraction to me (to a mutual coworker) at first I found it sleazy that he called me the perfect young girl and so cute and all this stuff but then I noticed myself getting more dressed up in the mornings, getting a little happy when he's there, etc. I will never ever act on any of these feelings because I have a bf and this dude is 5 years younger than my dad but is what I'm feeling sort of normal? :( thank you for any and all help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2012): Nothing abnormal or strange about having a crush on an older man. I am 19 and my bf is 45, also a 26 year age difference. Some older men are have traits that young women find attractive. They have that sense of stability, maturity, and so on.
To answer your question, yes, I would say you are normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNooo he's not married, probably what makes him more attractive/appealing and less sleazy. Thank you for the answers! :)
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (22 August 2012):
 He's not married, right?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 August 2012):
 you are not abnormal.
or strange.
you find him attractive
and it's an ego stroke....
fwiw I am only 3 years younger than my fiance's mother.
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