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30-35,
*eila1990
writes:After he proposed to me last Christmas( We've in distance relationship for 2 years)I moved and transferred college from California to a small town in Ohio to be with him. We got an apartment together( the lease was on his name) I got so excited for having my fairytale wedding!!! I bought a huge sectional couch , bed , kitchen table, dishes. It cost me all 3000$. A couple weeks later, He started treating me bad.Every time he get angry , he start telling me bad and mean words. He yelled at me and threaten to take keep all my furniture and make me out . He even started sending dirty text to girls. I couldn't live anymore with him , so I moved back to CA. However, before I leave his apartment , I cut the couch the Mattress and I throw everything I bought in the garbage ( I know it is crazy but it I didn't want him to use it) After , I left Ohio, he got angry that I cut the couch , he got everything I through out from the garbage , he even fix the couch and the bed. he is a mama's boy. His mother sent me mean texts ( I did nothing bad to her , I always respected her) he talked bad shiit about me to his friends. It hurt me so much because I loved him so much. Now he wanna get back with me , I still love him so much but IM worried to get hurt and I dnt wanna have have a long distance relationship again. I wish he could move and live with me in CA , treat me good and make me feel special. Now he is contacting me and telling me sweet words and i just descover he is on dating website . i feel like he is using me for company .I feel so sad and alone now .I never been hurt so much in my life and i don't know what to do :(
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 August 2012):
 You do NOT go back to him.
Block him, chalk the 3000 up to lessons learned and move on
just because he comes to CA will not mean he will treat you well.
you show totally why LDRs don't work if you haven't met IRL....
The relationship worked fine in theory but once you two were together it was clear you had too many problems.
he is cheating on you
he is treating you badly
you clearly are not ready to be in a relationship of any serious magnitude since destroying furniture because you didn't want him to use it is the act of a vengeful child.
use this experience as a stepping stone towards growth...
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