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writes:I've been going out with my girlfriend, who is 18, for over a year now, and sexually active with her for half a year. The problem is, she has never orgasmed. I just want to know if this is normal, or if i'm doing something wrong
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 April 2013):
 It may be normal.
Less than 30% of all women orgasm from penetration, so if you expect her to orgasm from the actual act of intercourse you are setting yourself up for disappointment.
I have had more than 100 partners both male and female over many years.... in all my time I have only had ONE partner who could consistently bring me to orgasm and that was through oral only.
does she bring herself to orgasm? if so have you asked her to show you how she does it so you can learn to do it for her?
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reader, anon1560 +, writes (23 April 2013):
Sometimes, it's hard for girls to get there. It takes more than just sticking it in for a while and expecting her to finish. That never works. You really need to figure out what makes her excited, which it seems like you want to do. The easiest way to do this is to tease her so much in the beginning and build up to the actual intercourse so slowly that she wants you so badly. Then, you definitely need to pay attention to her clitoris. You also need to go down south and give her head. Try to make her reach orgasm first that way, and then move to intercourse. The important thing above all, is that she needs to feel like anything that she brings to the table in bed is 100% OK. So you need to make her feel like you LOVE eating her out, even if you don't. Tell her you LOVE the way she tastes, every part of her body, pay attention to every part of her. Make her think you LOVE foreplay, even though it's obvious you're a guy and just want to stick it in. You'll learn after a while to actually love all those things, because you'll be making her so satisfied in bed. In turn, you'll be satisfied too!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2013): Well good sir. At least you honestly seem to care that she's not finishing, that's the first step ;3 It took me awhile to be comfortable enough with my boyfriend to be able to climax with him. I think it was probably 4-5 months into the relationship before I actually orgasm'd. Spend some time focusing on just her in bed. Try to figure out what she likes. Move her hand 'down there' and encourage her to play with herself a little! It'll happen eventually =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2013): Its normal if you don't do what she needs. It's very very rare that a woman won't orgazm with proper stimulation. The first mistake guys do is that they think that women orgazm the same as men through penetration.
Women don't orgazm from intercourse itself unless their clitoris is somehow stimulated, either with finger or tong.
Also it takes very long time for most women to orgazm. Some take half an hour or more. That's why lots of women don't orgazm unless they do it themselves, besides men especially in your age either don't know or are not willing to spend time.
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