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writes:I have been going out with this guy for over two months. It has been a wonderful relationship. Started out magically and everything. I see him every day. About two days ago, I noticed he was acting strangely and asked him what happened. He said that he had been feeling cold towards me. We talked about it the next day and he said that he worried because he hadn't felt like kissing me for the past two days. We talked and I told him that its normal to get those feelings once in a while. I believe that in every healthy relationship there are times when you simply do not feel like seeing the other person for a while, and that is perfectly normal. After our conversation, we went out and everything was a little awkward. Is that normal? Is that because we had our first little crisis? Was I right to say what I said?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your advice! I know you're right....its just that its probably the first time I've actually loved someone so its hard....I just hope he understands that sometimes its ok to feel that....haha.. Saw him today, was a little awkward at first, but I guess its also because I was kind of sending energies of insecurity, and Im not like that normally. But in the end everything was great... I know I will be fine, and I have faith in this relationship! Thank you once again! I'll let you know what happens!!! HUGS! Anna
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reader, leonard j. Douglas  +, writes (31 January 2008):
You got some very good answers,and they say what I would also say about your relationship. We all need our space now and then.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (31 January 2008):
 That is normal and you said the right things.There are ups and downs in every relationship. Even with your parents or siblings, you do have highs and lows.
There are times when we are happy and times when we feel low or sad. When we are happy, our emotions are high and every thing is viewed positively . The reverse happens when we feel sad.
When he feels down , you need to give and give...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): Hi Hunny,
You were very understanding and right to say what you did absolutly, Its true sometimes we all need a little space to do our own thing. Try going out with a friend and giving your b/f a few days to miss you sweetheart, He will then know what its like without you for awhile, There is a saying absence makes the heart grow fonder... I hope this helps a little WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): I think what you said is ok. So don't think that it's something you said. Quite honestly I don't think it has anything to do with you. He probably is having trouble sorting out his feelings, starting to feel pressured (not because something you did)since the relationship was going well, or just has a lot on his mind that he either doesn't want to talk about or probably doesn't feel it's worth talking about. Probably a good idea to give him some space and not see him everyday, but maybe twice a week. Let him know you're available if he needs you, but let him reach out to you.
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