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anonymous
writes:Is this normal for a guy to ask his girl friend to buy him gifts at the very beginning of their relationship and telling her what to buy for him? If she says no to buy then he remarked her as money minded? And if she buys, he becomes very happy and like child?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 October 2013):
 It's not common nor expected here. IN fact, the MAN is usually the gift giver in the relationship that's becoming serious... a ring or a pin in the old days (his high school ring or frat pin) was what was used to mark "going steady"
a man who demands or expects a gift and sulks like a child if he does not get it is not a man IMO and not worthy of a relationship with you.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (27 October 2013):
Who knows or cares if it's normal. What's important is whether or not you like it and whether or not you want to be with someone like that.
For me it'd be "no" and "no".
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reader, llifton +, writes (27 October 2013):
 everyone has a different "love language." in other words, different people expect and have different things that make them happy in relationships. he may seem to feel appreciated and valued most when people buy him gifts. however, that being said, i do not think it is socially acceptable, nor is it okay, to tell someone to spend their money on you, let alone so early in the relationship. i can't imagine telling my girlfriend to buy me things, and making her feel bad if she doesn't. then acting like a huge, grinning, idiot when she does.
how you've described him, he sounds very selfish and immature. i feel that this reflects on his character and personality early on. i think it's an indicator that he may be all about himself and unconcerned about you in the relationship. it's a red flag, if you ask me.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (27 October 2013):
 I have to say that is an interesting and unusual test. I know a bit of Indian culture, and while it is wildly different from my culture This behavior would still surprise me.
I can easily tell how materialistic (money minded) a woman is here by how much money she spends on her hair. It is a great indicator.
Having said all of that I see young men everywhere acting childish and demanding presents. In fact I often tell my daughter that if she would just buy a wide screen TV and a few game systems she would have to drive the guys away with a club. (she says that's not the kind of guy she is looking for) So while it is surprising to see a guy ask so blatantly for a gift, I suspect we will se more of it soon. Take the Aunt's good advice and find a better kind of guy.
FA
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 October 2013):
 Not normal at all. It sounds more like he is using you and manipulating you.
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reader, human_male  +, writes (27 October 2013):
 No that's not normal, and I don't think that's acceptable. And I think anyone would be stupid to tolerate it.
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (26 October 2013):
 No, this is not normal behaviour for a guy, in fact it's not normal for anyone.
Only children behave in this way, asking an adult for something, sulking if they don't get it and being all happy if they do.
If you allow this guy to behave like this and do his bidding to keep him happy then you are setting a precedent for this behaviour to continue.
Gifts should be given because you want to and you feel someone has earned them.
He's behaving like a spoilt little boy and needs to grow up.
If I were you I'd rethink this relationship!
I hope this helps AB x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2013): If someone tells you are money minded it means he is money minded, that's first.
Second of all , I hope you were joking. Did you actually go and bought something for him after this whole conversation? Of course it's not normal.
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