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writes:i was on the phone with this girl that i have a relationship with. the reason why i didnt say that she my girl friend though is that she has a problem with officially being girlfriend and boyfriends. she always says she doesnt think that the title is necessary. shes still okay with making out, or cuddling like most couples do.well anyways, i was on the phone with her last night and she seemed kinda different. i wasnt sure what it was but then she started talking about seeing this cop the other day and she was telling me how sexy she thought he was. i was kinda speechless and she asked me whats wrong and i said i thought it was kinda weird that shes telling me about that cop. we talked some more for awhile and then she brought up this dream she had about a different guy from school. it kinda bothered me and i just said "i dont think you should be telling me stuff like that." it use to never bother me much at all but it really bothered me when she talked about being with other guys now. i mean i guess its normal for girls to check out other guys but they normaly dont tell the guy that theyre having a relationship with all about it. so after i told her "i dont think you should be telling me stuff like that." she just went "this feels awkward. im gonna go to sleep now." so she said good night and i said good night, but then she asked me if im okay. normally i would lie and say yeah im okay, but she knows when i lie about that so i told her no im not okay. so she says "im sorry i didnt know you were so sensitive to the things i say." it kinda hurted me that she was talking about other guys and instead of straightning things out, she just wants to sleep. was i really being sensitive? is it normal for girls to check out other guys and talk about it with the guy theyre having a relationship with? i usually feel lucky that she would talk to me about anything. i hate feelings weak and easily hurt. maybe i shoulda kept the feelings inside or get over it.after she went to sleep, i called up an ex to talk about my feelings with. it helped and i was able to sleep. so the next morning i talked to the girl im with again and i told her about me calling my ex last night since i couldnt talk to her. after that, she just told me she wanted some space today and that she doesnt wanna talk to me until tomorrow. she also ended it off with "its not you, its me." she was always jealous of that certain that i talked to that night, but i thought since she didnt seem to care too much about my feelings then maybe she wont mind if i called my ex to talk to my ex instead. im just more hurt that the girl im with wont talk to me now. i dont know whats wrong with her and why would she need some time alone to think?
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