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writes:i met this girl 4 months before i had to go study over seas. I was everything in her life. Her first proper boyfriend. I ws gone for 15 months. We always talked on the phone and internet. I cheated on her couple of times when i was gone. When i came back, i found out she cheated on me and lost her virginiy that she has always wanted me to take. When i found out i got in a huge fight with her and dumped her. She did the impossible to get me back. I got back with her nad gave her another chance. I know she loves me so much. THen she cheated on me two months after i got back and said she had the attention. Now she's begging back for me. I love her. But it's either my pride or something else that's making me leave her. She has done so much to prove she loved me and that all she did was a mistake and it was really me who she wants...i did cheat on her when i got back. But i know i love her...I don't know why i did.I'm lost here guys....any experience? suggestions? I would really appreciate it. i just wanna see things from a different perspective. Thank you!
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (24 July 2008):
 well to start with.
HA.
ok now thats out the way, what goes around comes around.
You cheated on her. and then Blew up on her for cheating as well.
so you hook up and she cheats on you again. did she cheat on your ass because she loves you?
you know what you're both idiots and deserve each other.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (24 July 2008):
 You guys both cheated on each other. If you really loved each other, you guys would have been dedicated to each other, no matter how far apart you were. I don't see my girlfriend as much as I would like, but when we're together, we make the best of it. We don't cheat, we just work out our circumstances. That's why phones and the internet exist. If you two have proven that you can't be faithful to each other, then it's not meant to be. There will never be any trust, regardless of if you love this person or not.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (24 July 2008):
 I think that it is your pride that's making you leave her.
You fooled her once, but she has fooled you twice and this is just bothering you because she has hurt you twice already, and the way for you to get revenge is by leaving her.
Now if you say that you love her, then you will end up forgiving her and accepting that what she did was a mistake and you will move on. If you aren't unable to do this, then try to evaluate yourself and your love (and relationship) with her. If you love her as you say you do, you will try to accept her for what she did.
Now if you do go back to her, then have a long talk with her. Try to address the strongest problem in the relationship: why you two cheat. You have to find a way on stoping this trend you two have. If you love her you will try to solve this.
Hope this helps.
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