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writes: Hello. I been been with my husband for 5 years and married for over a year. When we got married and had a baby we stayed at my mums till we found a place since 5 months ago but he never likes to stay there and he prefers to stay at my mum which means we sleep in separate rooms or bed. I been off sex for a while and we never had any intercourse since the baby has arrived. Now since we got a place together I thought it could've bring us close together and be more comfortable however he don't understand that. I want to be alone with him and bring back what we had together. I really don't know if he's doing that because of me as I'm going through mood swings right now or if he is off me. Plz help. Reply to this Question
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (26 May 2014):
Having a child can put a lot of strain on any relationship, especially if the father is not a hands on Dad. Meaning he is not into being a dad as much as you would like. If the baby wakes up a lot at night and wakes him up too, he may feel the need to sleep elsewhere.
Some men are also turn off from their wives the first few mouth after she gives birth, especially if he sees the baby being born. The thought of putting his thing back in there can be a big mental barrier.
If you have mood swings, then you need to get control of it. I have not met a man yet that can handle mood swings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2014): I have been wary of answering this post because my first thought was : there's something going on between this guy and the Mum. But then I thought: no, you are just jumping to conclusions.
Now that I've seen what the other reader has said, I have to admit that I am still thinking: there is something going on with the Mum.
BUT, even if there is NOT, then it is extremely unusual for a man to prefer to spend time sleeping at the mother in law's house in a bedroom separate from his wife. Even if there's nothing sexual going on between the Mum and the husband, it's a very strong indication that this marriage is really not working. You guys need to talk.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (26 May 2014):
Instead of staying with you he stays with your mom? That's wierd... Can you think of any good reason he'd be staying with your mom? Is your mom single? Maybe their together? I know that may sound ridiculous but it's an idea.
For some guys, not many, their wife having a baby can be a complete sexual turn off. I'm not sure why, but I think it has something to do with them subconsciously looking at you like their own mom.
Honestly I don't know what you can do other than confront him. Tell him he's not living up to your expectations and you want him around more and you want to have some intimacy in the relationship. Then do your part and try to initiate intimacy with him and see how he responds.
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