A
female
age
36-40,
*aiveada
writes: I am currently not speaking with a freind who was offended about the fact that i am not used to mingling with the rough side of neighborhoods, or with people who are rough around the edges. She is a little that way, but i never allowed that to keep me from being my friend. There was a time that i said " I'm not used to hainging with those type of people" she really got offended. At the time i didnt know what was wrong or what i had done. so she didnt speak to me, i asked and i tried to talk to her like always. Being that she has done this to me before where she gets mad for no reason at all and then acts that way till she decides to talk to me. well after that night i got fid up with it and i deleted her number from my phone and i said i dont want her in my life. Well another one of my friends told her about that and that made things worse. she accused me of not caring and i told her i did care but that i was fed up with her constant behavior of getting mad at me and then being my freind again. and on and off. I told her i was tired of it. and she then accused me of being fake, because i act one way with my white friends and a different way with my hispanic friends. I though about it and yes i do do that. I am one way with my group of white friends and another with my hispanic friends. I have a stronger bond with my white group if freinds than with my hispanic group. I can not till this day have hispanic friends. I dont know if its me or them? Or i just dont know who i really am? please if anyone can help me i would truly appreciate it. Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, baddogbj +, writes (5 December 2009):
Your friends are your friends. If you don't feel comfortable with an individual or group then you don't have to be friends. It would be worse for you to pretend a friendship with someone in order to demonstrate your openmindedness, you are not required to run a personal positive discrimination policy.
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