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female
age
30-35,
*rim
writes:Hello everybody,Like loads of girls (as i found it out) i have doubt whether i have problems with my boyfriend or i am being silly (as he says quite a lot).We are going out for almost a year, he says he loves me and that i am special to him but sometimes i do not feel it. Loads of things made me suffer especially when it comes to his ex girlfriend(which he used to mention very often in the begining in our relationship and then i became very paranoid and now i mention her for different reasons). he still keeps her pajamas and underwear in his bedroom under his bed (saying that he forgot about them and that it is because she has his stuff and he wants to swap them but she isn't replying)...he has her in his msn under "my special girl" group ( he said he forgot about that totally)...then the problem with the gifts for christmas...i don't know what to expect for my birthday which is very soon and to be honest i don't think i expect anything..all the time when we made plans to go to a holiday together he didn't have money and all the time when he had money he went somewhere with his friends (which happened 4 times since we are together). i have doubts about the sex we have..we don't do it that often as we used to (we see each other just during the weekends) and in the begining we did it at least two times..nowadays it is once and not every weekend. i do not feel him passionate anymore, the very rare times we do it it seems like he does it because of me not because he wants it and it starts feeling wrong...loads of this things happen and i admit i am getting upset quite often recently and he always says i am being very silly. and he says i am perfect for him but the only thing that could make him leave me is when i get upset and sad. and i try to be constantly happy cause of what he said to me. i know i made it sounds really bad and i sad all his bad points, he sure have some good ones as well as one does but i feel very confused. that is my first relationship and to be honest i don't know how i am suppose to be treated and i do not want to leave him and not give him chance or me chance cause he will probably change to better with time. maybe it is too early i don't know how to feel about these things. Is it just me? Is there any way anything i could ask him or do and understand if he is the right guy ( i feel very confused cause he talks about us living together and having family together and where we could live and how we could arrange our lives together)..is it me? or just everybody is different and i should understand him and take him as he is...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): 1. Staying with a man because you expect/hope he will change is a recipe for disaster. Period. Accept that he is who he is, and he is not going to change.
2. He doesn't respect you--he would take your feelings seriously instead of telling you you're silly, if he respected you.
Do you really want to stay with someone who doesn't respect you and doesn't make you feel special and loved?
You deserve to be with someone who respects and loves you. Break it off with this guy and find the one who's right for you.
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