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writes:ok this may sound a bit weird but here goes.i have this guy friend who ive known for ages and he is married with 2 kids, he has currently been seperated from his wife 4 a year so far and even before that they had this on off relationship they would be living seperatly more often then together. now his wife just moved back in with him last month cause she got evicted from her apartment and since they r still legally married and they r his kids he has to take care of them. now she does whatever she wants, i dont really know her but ive seen her around and she hangs out with other guys and abuses him she checks his phone to see who he talks to and stuff like that crazy stuff. now she told him to make a trust fund for there daughters and he agreed cause its sensible but instead of writing both daughters names she wrote one and the other name she put her own she doesnt want to get a divorce because she wants his money when he dies... now me and this guy hang out alot he talks to me about stuff and i talk to him we take the kids out together and all that kind of stuff i have a son too and i just got out of a very difficult marriage.. now the other night i was out late and was coming home and my car broke down in the middle of the road i have noone to help me so i called him he had been asleep but he emediatly came for me..i left quickly after my car was alright again and wen i got home i smsed him tnx 4 coming.. the next day she phoned me screaming down the hone how dare i phone her husband and that he was a married man and all that kind of stuff. wen i met him in the street later he told me that his wife was driving him mad.. now what should i do? its not like we r in a relationship or anything and even if we were personally i dont think it would be bad because they r seperated she hates him and does whatever she wants anyway she is just controling him, but on the other hand i just got out of a bad relationship this guy is my friend and we both help each other with proplems that we have but i dont wanto get caught up in his family proplems either. i mean is there any way i can explain to her that we are simply friends and that i had noone to help me it was late at night and was stuck that was y i called him?tnx
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (21 January 2011):
 Your question held a few judgements on her; she's after his money when he dies (?); she abuses him and she snoops on his phone. You are only getting his side of the story - I'm sure there is much more here that hasn't been disclosed. (Isn't punctuation and capitalization a wonderful thing?) I'm pretty sure that she may be picking up on something that you have missed; like how he feels about you!!! You may actually be the current object of his affections - especially if he leaves in the middle of the night to rescue you when his ex/heinous bitch is in the house.
And - she sounds like an irresponsible person - but she is the person your friend chose to impale his heart upon and the mother of his two children - so whether or not she is difficult - she will always be in the picture. You need to tread lightly around her. She is difficult, and she is going to judge you every step of the way - so do everything above board and keep it in mind.
And she's not being reasonable - so explaining anything to her is useless.
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