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writes:I've known this guy for the past 4 months. Both of us are already committed. However we get along very well, I do feel very splendid when i'm with him.He is aware that I've very strong feelings for him. He's promised to support me forever. It gets slightly complicated when we are close. He loves touching me everywhere and i too like his touch. We've promised to do everything but have sex since we are committed. When we are together he does everything to please me and make me feel good. He hasn't kissed me on my lips(he's kissed me on my eyelids to put me to sleep on an instance). I know that he likes me since he keeps calling me all the time, takes time out for me and makes me feel very special when we are together. However I don't correctly understand if he loves me or trying to please me since he is physically attracted to me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): I'm a male, and I understand your question. With men love, lust, and infatuation all sort of fall in the same place. At least for me it does. What's important to remember when considering this is LOVE is not just a feeling. It's an action! Does he act like he loves you? Or does it just seem like he's just infatuated with touching you and pleasing you sexually. Try just cutting it off altogether for a while and see what he does and how he reacts. I had a girlfriend and I was actually asking myself that same question: Do I love her or am I just infatuated with what I see and get from her sexually. I had to try to quit sex and her and foreplay as well. What I found out what that it was a little of both. I really did love her, and I also was really infatuated with our sexually life. Realizing this helped me out when she didn't want to have sex, because now I knew that we didn't need to do this to have a good time. I simply liked being with her. Test him out and see what he does. That's your best bet. And ask yourself that same question....You might be surprised with what you come up with.
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reader, AuntYvi  +, writes (23 March 2008):
Your both already committed! That should answer your question!
I suggest you stop dragging this out. Either take a break from your current partners and make a go of it! or
stop it now before you damage your current relationships beyond repair!
Not having sex with the person your having an emotional affair with doesn't make it any less messy when it comes to a head!
It may feel special, but until your the only woman in the picture and he is the only man you won't know!
Ask him outright. If he hesitate's he not ready to leave. If your seriously considering moving on from your partner then maybe you should take the leap with our without a new man, being on your own will help you figure out what you nreally want!
AuntYvi
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reader, TEMPTED  +, writes (23 March 2008):
It sounds like he cares for you a lot, but may not love you. I am in a similar situation because I also have a similar type of friend but we are both married to someone else. My friend has not promised to support me though. That is way different. The key thing is that it sounds like he does not want to leave his wife. That means he probably loves her very much but wants your "friendship" or whatever it is on the side. Just be leary, because I would think, in the end, he will choose his wife, so try to back off a bit on your feelings for him. I too have to do the same thing!!!
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