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writes:ok, well i have been in a relationship now for basically 3 years..i'm 19 years old. i love my boyfriend so so much but just feel like i need a break..i don't even know who i am, except that i'm his girlfriend, that seems to be my only identity. on top of all that there's all this other stuff that he's just being really irresponsible to the point where it is affecting my financial life. i love him so i go along, but i'm hurting him more than helping..AND..because i have just felt so stressed out i messed around with another guy, and i'm just so confused right now..anyways any advice would be welcome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): hey thanks..i have gotten the same advise from everyone and it seems to be best..i just dont want to lose him:( anyways thanks for answering it means soo much:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): Hi Hunny
It sounds as if you have lost yourself as your own person, Your 19 so you have been in this relationship sinse you were 16 and from the ages of 16 to 19 we grow alot hunny. You need to get you back sweetheart..You said your b/f has been affecting your financial life so Im guessing your paying alot of money out on certain things for him, Has he got a job hunny? If you are supporting him then yes this will get you down and if he is just taking one day at a time and is all laid back with this then yes you will get very frustrated...I dont no for sure love as you havent actually said this its just guess work....(sorry if Im wrong) but whatever is going on your not happy, you need to sit down and talk with him hunny and say it how it is, Its not going to get any better if you dont talk....Im going to send you a link on self esteem as you may feel you have a need to give yourself a boost to get yourself back to the person you once were sweetheart....
http://www.womensselfesteem.com/index.html
There is all sorts on this site relationship advise and more...Hunny if your not happy within yourself then you must make a decition to get strong and get yourself back and happy again, That may involve a break from your b/f its hard as you have been together so long and you do love him, But if things continue the way they are going, you will loose all respect for him..So concentrate on you hunny and give yourself some well deserved time.....TAKE CARE WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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