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writes:I have been living with my bf for about a year now. I moved across the country to be with him. I recently got a great job with great schedule; but with a lot of stress and responsibilities. When I get home I am extremely tired; and adding the fact that I stand on my feet the whole day; at the same time I am walking to work 'cause he is using my car. I am exhausted when I get home!!!!! My bf also works long hours, but he is not standing on his feet the whole day. The problem is that I have no time or energy to do anything at the house, then he also expect for me to cook for him everyday, clean the house, do laundry, etc. He has started to complain that I don't do anything on the house; he states that he lives worse now than when he used to live on his own. He says that I don't help him at all. I said to him once, well marry me if you want me to be a housewife and stay home: then said: How can I marry you now, if you don't do anything on the house.I am trying to cook , clean , and do the laundry while he studies and read. OMG!! I also have stuff to read too. I am so upset right now that I don't even want to talk to him. This morning he started to talk to me about a show he went to last night without me "because I was tired". I didn't say a word, then he got upset 'cause apparently I can't have a proper conversation with him. He says he can't have a conversation with me. Seriously, I say well you either take me as I am or leave it... then he replied: I know.I need help.... I feel like he brings all the negative out of me. He doesn't say anything good about me. Anything I do is not good enough for him...Even if I try to do the things he ask me... He wants my life to be all about him but, I can't...I work.. and I like my job even though is a lot. Is it love or convenience what he wants from me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): Go to Amazon.com and buy the following:
1. Why Men Marry Bitches by Sherry Argov
2. Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov
3. The Secret (by the audio, dvd and book).
4. Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward.
5. Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Barcroft.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2010): You have to follow your heart here ....this Man sounds abusive and negative to you , despite your hard work ! I think though you have stopped communicating and are now angry which is understandable .
Take a quiet moment over dinner , out of the house and say how you feel . Talk to each other and listen . If you cannot find a way to compromise then there is little future .
Getting married would mean you were forced to remain in such a frustrating situation . Try and keep calm and talk ......good luck !
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