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female
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36-40,
*angster
writes:I've been "officially" dating this guy for about a month now. We started off as sort of friends with benefits but we started having feelings for each other. Now we see each other almost everyday and the sex is AMAZING! I have absolutely NO complaints about the physical intimacy we have. I guess my question is how do I open up emotionally to him and get him to do the same. We've discussed our feelings for each other, but something seems off. Sometimes there's awkward silences and I don't like that. I've only ever been with one other guy, we were together for 8 years, so being in a relationship with someone new and completely different from my ex in everyway is taking some getting used to. I want to really be able to open up to the my new guy, but I guess I just don't know how, or if what we share is just a sex thing?
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (13 July 2010):
 I've always found trying to turn "friends with benefits" into something more to be the hardest transition to make, having been on both sides of the fence. The only real way I've found it to work is to stop the FWB situation and only kick it up again once in an actual relationship. Its just that with FWB's you're supposed to both be on the same page and if someone feels like changing the page, it can get pretty awkward pretty fast, especially if it blindsides your friend. And its a generalization, but I've found it to be more true than not... us guys find it very hard to just flip a switch and commit to a relationship, especially when we're getting drama-free sex... we need time to ponder :)
Anyhoo, best of luck :)
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