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writes:My girlfriend and I were together for 2.5 years. Last night she called me, started crying, and said that she couldn't handle the anxiety feelings that were coming back and ended our relationship. She said she felt we were too young to be this serious (I'm 22 and she turns 21 in July). She says she still loves me though. On top of it all, she has been getting on Skype late at night (not to talk to me) but blames that on her iPhone saying it logs her in at random times and she says that she isn't chatting to other guys on there or anything although she has been guilty of having inappropriate (while in a relationship with me) conversations with other guys on there in the past. Is it just me, or does this whole thing seem a little fishy? Reply to this Question
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (18 February 2012):
I am pretty sure she was seeing someone else. Two years is a very long time and people can indeed change / meet new people in that time. Those feelings she had like anxiety must have come from somewhere. She is also telling you general information instead of specifics. An Iphone is a very good phone so I don't expect it to just randomly sign into skype at that particular hour out of nothing. So you think something is fishy? Well that feeling alone is a pretty good tell that something is going on. You can pursue this issue with her but you can expect that it will not lead to anywhere good. I'd say just to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2012): It could be she has someone else or that she is trying to line something else up or she could really be having anxiety or she is not happy to be tied down at the moment. Talking with her is the only way to find out if she is willing to be honest about it. She broke up with you so it may not make any difference.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 February 2012):
 It seems she has someone else, but, if she didn't, it would still be true that she broke up. Take her at her word.
By the way, don't take her back if she should offer that. If she has someone else and that is why she broke up, then don't take her again after she fails with the other guy. If she had no one, but decided to break up just like that, then don't be prey to her mood swings.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 February 2012):
 well she broke up with you there is probably someone else because it's rare that without abuse to fuel it folks leave something comfy and familiar for NOTHING but they will leave if they have something to go to.
If she has a history of inappropriate behavior with others then it may be the same thing.
she's not cheating then.. she's ended it.
and since she's just 20 you have been together since she was about 17 she's grown and changed a lot and it may be time for her to move on.
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