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writes:Hi Cupid!My ex was really good at oral sex and i orgasmed everytime. We've since split up and i turned to vibrators to stimulate myself which also made me orgasm every time. I've recently met a new guy and we slept together for the first time about 2 weeks ago, but when he went to give me oral sex, i couldnt cum. I was just wondering if its possible i have damaged my nerve endings in my clit because i have gotten use to such strong vibrators for the past months or its just him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2011): hey thats normal for a woman once she uses a vibrator its stronger and more intense than a man can give . just enjoy the vibrator and take what pleasure you get from him .. its less than before the vibrator but look how much you have gained . ps men dont have a clue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou alll for your answers! You've really helped! Especially getting quite a few male perspectives of it! Thanks Guys :)
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (2 October 2009):
 Either way. Like CaringGuy said, it shouldn't be PERMANENT, because you're built to take abuse down there, but you are now more used to stronger sensation. Lay off the vibe and get used to a more subtle experience, while also helping to guide your new boyfriend in the best ways to hit your particular buttons.
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reader, meganutts +, writes (2 October 2009):
 I've heard about this happening but I've never thought it was true, but if I was to make an assumption I would say no u haven't, like the aunt said before me, u may have made ur clit more in need of attention. Its the same with us guys when we use the fleshlight, it builds stamina and longevity if used properly. Don't give up, just try to have ur guy go slow with u and spend sum more time with his fingers and tongue and not ur vibe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): Most likely: it's him. You've given him ONE chance to make you come. Did you really come the first time your ex went down on you? In either case, you can't expect this new bloke to know automatically what buttons to push with you. You have gotten yourself used to coming with vibrators, they feel different. You need to get used to him now, as well as him getting used to you. This will also help you calm down: most women start learning how to orgasm with a vibrator, then learn how to orgasm with a partner. So no, you haven't damaged yourself for good. To do that you'd have to cut your clit and wreck the nerves. It can help you and your new boyfriend if you start with the vibrator, and then him finishing you off? Congrats on a new boyfriend, and don't be afraid to continue using your toys!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 October 2009):
No, you haven't damamged anything. In using vibrators, you've made the nerve endings on your clit a bit more resilient. This can be reversed though, so don't use your vibrators and just focus on getting to know your guy and getting him to know your body.
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