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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Okay so extremely long story short.THE BACKGROUND: I started an intimate friendship with a guy in summer let's say his name is Alpha.We both started to talk about feelings and how we've both been hurt before. We started talking about a relationship and we agreed that together when we we're both ready , we would start one. I stopped talking to other males, he stopped talking to other females when things started to get serious.OKAY NOW FOR THE PROBLEM: Alpha has an older brother who has had sex with over one hundred girls and he takes advice from him (keep in mind his brother and my older sister had a fling that didn't work out.) His brother going clubbing A LOT and takes alpha (who is underage by the way) along with him to get girls and all this crap. Alpha and i have had situations with his brother where his brother says "bro , she just wants you for sex" and all this bullshit which is not true(I believe his brother wants him to stay single).He will call me freaking out on things that his brother will tell him THAT HE BELIEVES! Basically i slept over his house and it was a great time (not like that.) I cooked for him, we stuffed our faces, watched a movie and cuddled all night. We had an intense talk where we expressed that we were falling for each other and he was also talking about me meeting his mother. 3 days later, he spent some time with his brother in the day ...and called me later that night. the call was about him not wanting a relationship anymore like...at all. I was totally confused because our friendship had been going on for 7months, the 7months was supposed to be us preparing for this. Like what the f-ck right? He was saying that in the time I'll be waiting for him to ask me out, someone else might want to make me happy, and I should go with them. I reacted calmly and told him that nobody else was making me happy except him. I honestly can't tell if it's his brother, if Alpha just wants to be single, if there's someone else, if I'M paranoid. I just wanna know what the f-ck is up and where this came from. I cry when I'm left alone to think about it and I cried a lot of that night. Things now have just been us not messaging back and forth and not calling/texting at night anymore. He said he would message the next day and he hasnt.I have already adapted to many changes for him. I don't want to try anymore but i feel that my heart is not done with him. What should I do...should I just leave him with his idiot brother or call him to try and fix things.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (1 March 2012):
 Leave him with his idiot brother and move on sweetie, he's not ready for a relationship. Don't waste those precious teenage years, they are gone so quickly.
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