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writes:I had been a long time with dad`s cousin I think we have a good relationship but in the last time that I saw her I started to feel something because I saw her crying for that i felt something new so the problem is that she is like my family and I don`t know if she feel the same also she is a lot olderMy question is:how do i can know what is she feeling or what do i do?
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (2 March 2012):
 You can do nothing, it's not that she is your Dad's cousin. In most of the countries in the world (except for the USA and a few others) it is legal to marry cousins.... The problem is...
YOUR 13-15years old, your still a child and if she is 8 years older, then she's a woman and she only wants to date grown men. This is all fantasy, soon you will grow up and forget all about this older woman, and even if you don't forget, she'll always think of you as one of the children running around and eating ice-cream.
As the aunts keep telling you, forget it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2012): Didn't you post this yesterday?
Do not get involved. She is your FATHER'S COUSIN and your FATHER does not want HIS SON dating HIS COUSIN.
Comprendo?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2012): Wow. If the first response is true, somebody remembers every queston and where everybody came from. I'm impressed even if it isn't true; it would take more brain than I've got even to imagine that.
Anyhow, since feelings are involved, I always think it's best to get the facts. With regard to kinship and marriage, the best study I know of is :::An Association between Kinship and Fertility of Human Couples Agnar Helgason et al. SCIENCE vol. 329 no. 5864 February 8, 2008 page 813 – 816:::
You can but it off sciencemag.org for a few buck. Have a look. I would call your friend your first cousin once removed, corresponding to "second cousin or closer" on their graph or maybe a bit closer if you are related along more than one line. Make up your own mind, but biologically, if you want children, and I kind of think that's what love is all about, there are worse choices. In fact it looks like the best choice. If you wan't grandchildren, same warning about related in more than one way, it isn't ideal, but it's better than a lot of things, including total strangers, which is sort of standard now.
Best of luck and much happiness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2012): You're the same guy who'd chosen Ecuador as his country previously and now you say you're from Chile. Your aunt is 8 years' senior to you and you have feelings for her. So why have you posted the same question again? I think people advised you on that thread to not go ahead with whatever you have in mind.
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