Is it friendship? Or more?

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I had been chatting with this guy for 4 years and I decided to go meet him. I went over to his state to meet with him, he was working so the time that we could spend was limited and I was only able to stay there for the weekend because I had to come back home. We consider ourselves friends, the thing is that I kind of like him. I am attracted to him and I don't know if he is to me. He would stare into my eyes and I felt as if he was attracted to me, but maybe that is what I want to think. It wasn't a really long stare but was enough for me to want to kiss him. His stare didn't feel threatening or mean, but the other way around. He invited me for dinner at some 'fancy' restaurant and he paid for it, I offered to pay half since we are friends but he said it was ok because I had gotten him a gift for his b-day. He invited me to the movies and he paid for everything too (entrance and drinks- I didn't want popcorn), he also paid for all the shakes we drank through the days I staid there, he also paid for the dinner we had the next day... should I consider that just being friends or dates? I know he was trying to be a good host, but... I feel as if its too much. He drove me around to show me the scenery aswell since there isn't much to do around. I also met his mom and apparently she knew I was coming over to visit his son because she asked me if I was coming all the way from (state) but she did miss the city. I told her I was and she said that it was a shame that her son had to work during those days, but I told her it was kind of my fault. Anyways, I am confused and I don't know if he only likes me as a friend or what. I don't want to ask him because I don't want to be all over him. Any comments

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