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writes:I used to have this best friend, and we were close. You could possibly say that at times our relationship felt more than your average friendship, and it was a little mutual. We were always together and would find any excuse to hangout. Unfortunately, from one moment to the other an event happened that splintered our friendship. I had an instigating party (former friend) mislead me with things about him, presumably because this former friend was jealous of the friendship I had with this no-longer friend of mine. So around June of 2009, he told me that he and another friend were talking badly behind my back. I felt it was a very sophomoric thing for him to tell me this, because my philosophy with friendships is that you should always let the person find out if a friend is not good for them. The point being, I didn't even question what this former friend said (turns out he couldn't even say what it was, so mostly false)-- the mature thing would of been to just let go of it, but instead I became enraged and attacked him with really mean remarks, because I though the story the former friend provided me was true. I then falsely accused him of putting my phone number on craigslist, because there was a bit of a mistake shortly after. And not only that, but I deleted him from my facebook, and then blocked him from my messengers. A few months later, I felt remorse and I tried to get a hold of him. He deleted me from his messengers and moved on, but I tried my best to make amends by composing a very long e-mail telling him I was really sorry, but understood his decision if he didn't want to talk to me. He replied: LMAO. I figured that as simple as the reply was, the hurt I cost in him was beyond that simple response. Thereby, not allowing him to take my message serious.I feel so bad about what I did.Occasionally, I have dreams involving him.Especially around the remaining part of 2009. They kind of had diminished. However,yesterday, I had this very realistic dream of him and I. At first we tried to avoid each other, but then we started talking and we rekindled that friendship we once had...then I woke up and well realized the reality of the situation. I understand someone can be mad for a while, and by now it's almost been two years of not speaking or attempting any contact, but incidentally his birthday is in three days and I started thinking of him, again (the dream did not help.)I miss our hangouts, conversations, company, etc...Is it ever too late to say you're sorry?For the record he's got a very stern personality, however, he also has a very sensitive side that oddly enough only I saw a lot. Is two years not enough? Am I too late? I realize I cannot go back to exactly how things were...but I just want my friend back. Should I contact him? And if so what is a good approach of telling him that I am deeply sorry for what I did? Sorry for the really long question...I am just feeling overwhelmed with this situation. I appreciate any input, and by this point I have almost lost any hope in actually getting anything from this situation. Thanks again, everyone.
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (20 March 2011):
 Thx, sorry it didn't work out for ya...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. Though a bit polarized, I can see where it is coming from. Turns out--I opted not to do it, but I figured I had nothing to lose anyway, so I bid him a decent birthday. Much to my misfortune, but not much to my surprise...he did not respond. Well, that's a lesson i had to learn, I guess. Thanks again, this advice meant a lot to me. And GeeGee though I didn't fully take your advice, I honestly did take what you said into consideration, and it was helpful so I rated both of you 5's.
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (14 March 2011):
Sometimes you just have to wait for life to put this guy in front of you again. So don't force it for now, wait for a sign that the time is right to try again.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (14 March 2011):
Go for it. It is never too late to say sorry. Whether you apology is accepted is another thing that you can't control.
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