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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:In my class, there is one international guy from China that acts a bit strange around me. After we teamed up in a mini project, he and I started talking more and discovered we have similar interests. However, when ever I talk to him he laughs a little (like he is embarresed) and smiles really big. For the last couple days, we had been working late on a project due for our class and when he would head back I would tell him good night or say bye. The first time I did this, he looked at me for a little bit and seemed flushed and very happy (he had a really big grin on his face) and he said bye and took off in the other direction. Today just as he was about to leave, he stopped at my desk before leaving. I noticed he was leaving and told him goodnight and he replied night with a smile on his face and left.I've never had a guy act like this around me before...he is so shy! Why is he acting this way around me? Is he just shy or is there some other reason?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2012): I've dated a few Asian men and they don't really like bold or outgoing women. In their culture, women are more sensual and demure, not outwardly initiating conversation with men. Men take the lead so your assertiveness is probably very awkward to him so he smiles and gives a nervous laugh. He has probably also heard about how American women come on very strong compared to his culture.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo maya1994: I don't think that is the case. He talks to other international students (who are girls) with not much difficulty and doesn't get nervous around them. It could be the language barrier that makes him more nervous about talking.
To mystiquek: It does seem most Asian men are intimidated to
American women (to a less or greater degree depending on the guy). When I talk to my classmate though, I try and keep my sentences short and concise. Also when I ask him something or talk to him, he pauses but answers me back. Do you have any idea how to get my classmate a little more comfortable around me instead of being very shy?
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (31 January 2012):
 I have dated a Japanese man for 10 years. Some Asian men are rather intimidated by American women, so yes he may be shy and not quite sure what to say or do. He also may not always understand exactly what you are saying at times. My guy will often smile or laugh and its taken me a long time to realize that he does that to cover up when he doesn't understand me. He is too embarrassed to admit that he doesn't understand, but I now just ask him "Did you understand?" Perhaps keeping this in mind may help you in your interactions with him. Good luck!
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reader, tiamaria12  +, writes (31 January 2012):
Its obvious this boy likes you perhaps he hasen't had a girl be so friendly and nice to him before .
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reader, maya1994 +, writes (31 January 2012):
Well i think he's the kind of guy who doesn't have a lot of female friends so he acts this way with every girl whose nice to him.
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