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writes:Ok for the ladies out there that have had a baby, how has this affected your enjoyment or preferences to anal sex? I'm just asking because my wife does not see in to anal sex at all since the birth of our first. She would ask for it at times and would quite often be my "three hole girl" as she called it in a day. But since our first was born 2 years ago nothing.A bit of background, we have been together over 13 years so we have done anal lots of times over the years.Anal has always been something I have asked for more than her.I have always been gentle, used lube, stopped and gone at her directions when doing it.I'm not against a bit on anal play on me, she has used toys in me during a blow job, and even used a strapon on me, about the same size as me too 8".She was cut a bit during child birth but has healed up very well, no visible scar, It's just something I would like to put back on the menu because I do love her ass
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (18 November 2014):
 I think you need to talk to her. This is not something you can make a general statement on, you need to talk to your wife and listen to what she says. I find it a bit odd that in two years, you haven't mentioned it? There's never been a discussion? Have you initiated it, and she rejected the idea? How is the sex life aside from this?
It could also very well be that she's gotten used to not having it, perhaps because of the "cut" from childbirth, and possibly also hormonal changes from pregnancy and breast feeding. It's just that... if you stop doing something for quite some time, often people will forget about it or forget how they used to enjoy it. Could be as simple as that, that she stayed away from it for so long for natural reasons (childbirth, and a baby that needs a lot of attention) and then she just fell into a new routine.
I think they only way to figure this out is to talk to her about it and ask her what she thinks and what she wants to do and how she wants things to be. Just talk about it.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (16 November 2014):
 I'd talk to her, but also respect her choice to no longer prefer it (if that is the case)
As for "no visible scars" well, you can't go bu that solely. EVERYTHING feels different after a baby. We mostly go back to "normal" after a while, but what we USED to get enjoyment from may have changed drastically.
Some of it might be perception as well. (hers)
So you should TALK about it. It's the only way to find out why it's off the table and IF she wants it back on the table.
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