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writes:I have always been very shy and quiet and only had a small handful of friends (2-3). I don't like being friends with someone I cannot be really close with. I feel those relationships are just a total waste of time and completely fake. It takes me years and months of knowing someone before I become very close to them. I just want to be alone all the time. I love just being by myself. Sometimes I shut my phone off so I won't be bothered. I recently broke up with my boyfriend because he wanted to get serious and I wasn't as committed as he was. Sometimes I just sit on my bed in my room and just talk in my head and think about everything. I just don't want to be bothered by anything. Recently, I have become more sensitive to noise especially loud noise and I hate it. Loud noise annoys me the most. I just want to sit in the house with total silence. I hardly have the television on. Is this normal or is this a phase I am just going through? I don't feel like developing relationships with anyone. I just want to be alone with my thoughts.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (18 February 2013):
Hi there. It's not really a case of is it normal or is it not.
It really only depends on if you are happy with the way things are.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be on your own.
You seem to know what you like and don't like.
You are fairly happy being in your own company, and you don't particularly like too much noise, or loud noise.
It's nice to have silence sometimes, it is very peaceful.
There really is no need to change this situation, unless you can honestly say you are NOT happy with how things are.
It all comes down to what makes you truly happy.
There is no need to sit and watch tv for several hours non stop - if that is something you DO NOT enjoy.
Why not read, if you are bored?
Or go for a nice long leisurely walk, to be alone with your thoughts?
And we don't have to be with people 24 hours of every day, it's just not necessary.
Do whatever makes you happy.
And don't go comparing how you feel about your life, to what others are doing with theirs.
It doesn't matter what other people do, it only matters what you do.
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reader, rbrownxo  +, writes (16 February 2013):
 Personally i think you may wanna talk to someone about this, fair enough every likes to have time by themselves alone but we are humans and as humans we are almost programmes to socialise. It could be just a phase you are going through yea, but talking to a doctor about it wont hurt either. By talking to your doctor you will be able to find out if this is a deep rooted emotional or mental issue. It might be a form of depression, as wanting to be alone and not wanting to be bothered with anything are signs of depression as is the irritations you feel towards loud noises, as people with depression (speaking with experience), are quick to become irritated with something simple. It could be a simple phase you are going through, but a doctors appointment wouldn't hurt hun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2013): I would definitely get the earliest appointment you can with your local doctor. This is not mentally healthy ... Yes we all crave alone time and some more than others. But isolating yourself... Talking to yourself in your head... Not liking loud noises. Are very disturbing symptoms. I don't think you have autism as not liking loud noises would be something that would have been innate. But I do feel your border lining on some serious mental health spectrum and you need to for your own sake get this checked out.What I purpose you do is let your mum or dad or sister / brother read this post and the answer you have received. I'm a mental health nurse but I cannot diagnose you for many reasons all I can say is this is very serious sweetie and needs to be looked at ASAP . Take care and please update us after you have seen the doctor.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 February 2013):
 I think it may be reaction to ending your relationship but I also think a complete medical work up and maybe some counseling to cope with the end of the relationship (even if you wanted to end it it's still traumatic) is in order.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2013): I've always been a loner and the shy quiet type. I am perfectly content being alone. I don't like all the distractions that other people bring into my life and should I say drama. I've never had a "need" to be around other people. I'm just not a people person.
I don't think being that way is bad and neither should you.
It sounds like you do have some friends. I do too and I do go out with them and meet up with them for lunch or we do things together. We call each other and talk. So I do get out and socialize.
I hope you are doing some socializing. After I do that, I retreat into my home and regroup.
What I do for living is isolating too and probably too much because I do have a need to get out or I would go stir crazy, even if it is just to drive around or to go to a local store to walk and be around people.
Don't isolate yourself to the point of no interaction with people. If that is what you are doing then, yes, I would suggest getting some counseling.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 February 2013):
 You should go be checked by a psychiatrist/psychologist if you may have some kind of autism, the loud noises thing is especially a clue to that. It's OK to want alone time, but it's not normal to completely isolate yourself from everyone you know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2013): I think it's a phase.
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