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writes:Hello this may not be much of a relationship question but I was wondering if it was bad that a guy doesn't have friends?? I know it's a weird question but I have a crush on a guy at university and although I haven't spoken to him I've seen him around for about 2 years (no I don't stalk him! I've just seen him around at school) and I've never seen him with any friends at all. He's always alone and looks very shy. I want to talk to him. I heard this was a bad sign?? Thanks for reading.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2013): Depends, some people are just not out going but they might have a circle of friends at a place where they feel at home. Like say a hobby club or at a sports activity.
But I would take it as a potential warning, he is not an outgoing person. So if you are, how long would any relationship last when you get sick of him not changing? And he of you.
Not all shy people are insane psychopaths but all shy people are NOT insane psychopaths either. Same as with non-shy people really, it is during talking and later dating that we find out what someone is really like. Hopefully before they use your skin for a coat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2013): Just because you haven't seen him with friends doesn't mean he doesn't have any.
You don't know the guy, you have no idea what his social skills are like.
If you want to talk to him, go find an excuse to and just do it. Stop trying to prejudge a person you've never actually spoken to and don't know any of his friends.
OP you're looking for ways this can go wrong because you've had too much time to over think the situation. Fortune favours the brave, time to find out for yourself what his deal his.
Maybe he's very open and lovely, and just doesn't 'stop and chats', maybe in college mode he's all about business, maybe he has lots of friends at the college but you just don't see him with them, maybe he's just very focused on his studies. Talk to him, find out.
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