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writes:me and my bf have been going out out for two months, but the most we have done is hug once - when he asked me out - and been to the cinema with his friends. Is it bad of me to want to do more with him? it's starting to feel as if we are more like friends then a couple, What should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, junebug81409  +, writes (4 February 2010):
you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel.tell him you wanna go hang out.thats not nice of him to treat you that way.i would break up with him if i tried to hold his hand and he ran off.but he also deserves to know how you are feeling.bcuz whats the point of dating if you dont even go on dates?im sorry to tell you but you deserve the right for someones to love you and treat you good.good luck honey!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo i went to hold his hand today and he just looked at me weirdly and said he just needed to do something then walked off. i don't know wether to feel bad or offended. and he has dated three other girls at our school.
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reader, Canewood +, writes (4 February 2010):
Really? Two months? Well, he might be gay or not like you like that or he might be the perfect guy and is protecting your relationship. Its not bad of you to want to do more with him after all you like him. But for goodness sake don't push it. Unless you just want a fling and don't care about the relationship. You don't know what is going on in his head. He might like you so much that he freezes up. All I can say is that it has only been two months. However if you feel like you are going to loose him forever to friendship then make a small move like a kiss. But don't push it more than that. And don't keep doing it. If he doesn't do anything back or on his own you may have a best friend or a gay best friend at that. You could have worse. You could have a jerk who only wants you for sex. Count your blessings.
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reader, girl from bristol +, writes (3 February 2010):
no of course its not bad for you to do more with him if you like him you are probably becoming more like friends as there is no physical side to the relationship
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (3 February 2010):
 Hi.It's not bad of you to want to be more affectionate with your bf, it's natural when you like someone. In a way its good that he's not being pushy and trying to move to quickly with you, but 2 months with just a hug must be a bit frustrating and confusing.How old is your bf? If he is a similar age to you, 13 - 15, it could be that he has not had much experience with girls before and is very shy about kissing you. If he is quite young it could be that he is embarraced about showing you affection in front of his friends. Perhaps ask him if he'd like to go out to the cinema or something, with just you. Try to get closer by taking his hand when you're together and hopefully he will feel more confident doing this. It could be that he does want to kiss you but he is really shy about it. If you don't think this is the case and you do feel like you are more like friends try talking to him about this. Good luck :)
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reader, junebug81409 +, writes (3 February 2010):
no its not bad of you to feel that way.just tell him you wanna do something together as just a couple.if u dont feel comfortable then write a note or email or text.you guys are young and maybe he is just scared around you.has he even had any gf before?dont think bad but im sure he likes you but just doesnt know how to handle a relationship.thats how my bf was when i was your age.im sure if your honest to him he will understand.i wish the best of luck hon!and for some reason he really doesnt want to spend time with u then u deserve much better than that and its time to let him go.good luck!
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