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*ngela Sam
writes:Is it called an illicit affair if you are involved in a long distance relationship with a married man? I never met him but our relationship of 3 yrs are through online chats only.
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reader, msmoore  +, writes (23 July 2010):
yes it is an affair, because the affection he is giving to you, rightfully belongs to his wife, i know this because several women are currently having internet long distance relationships with my husband and i am so extremely hurt that i cant breathe, so yes it is an affair and you are specifically responsible for tresspassing in someone else marriage and for breaking some womans heart that probably truly loves her husband and thinks (foolishly)that her marriage is a marriage.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 July 2010):
 Yes, It's called an emotional affair. It's just as bad as if you slept with him on a regular basis.
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reader, Elydiese  +, writes (21 July 2010):
Of course it is
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): I've had one of these online romances myself, and you can take it from me that you are undoubtedly living in a fantasy world which would come crashing down if you were to meet. I take it that if things have gone on for 3 years online, a meeting is on the cards.
Either end it now, or meet and then it will probably end. The best option would be to end it without meeting, so that you can enjoy and remember what your imagination as conjured up about this man.
It is a strong form of infidelity sure, because his wife would not be at all happy about it, particularly as it is the emotional side of things that you have been sharing with her husband.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 July 2010):
Yes, it's an affair. And it's something you should stop now.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 Yes its cheating. It is an emotional affair. I have no doubt his wife knows nothing about his LDR with you.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (21 July 2010):
 It's an emotional affair. Whatever emotions he's feeling to you is less he is feeling to his wife, its good news for you, but not so much for his wife.
May I ask what the point is of talking to this man for three years online? Do you ever plan to meet to make things more? Because if not, and I'm not trying to condone cheating,but really all I see happening here is that his wife that he sees in person may not be getting the affection she deserves in a marriage. And why date someone if there is not a future there nor sex...or even proper dates?
I think you should find a guy that can spoil you, make you happy and you can see in person. I'm not assuming you're not happy, because you just may be. But think of how happier you might be if you had a boyfriend you could touch, hug, hold, spend time together in person. You're cheating yourself out of a lot of the greatest parts of a relationship, bonding in person. And I'm not just meaning sex. I mean talking, laughing together, cuddling, going on dates places.
So to answer your question, it is considering cheating what you're doing.
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