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writes:I dated this guy for a month. Things were really intense and went really fast. We work together and when we thought management found out he ran. We had a very bad breakup. I was really upset he dropped me so fast. We fought for a while but have now been able to move past it all and become friends. This all happened about a month ago. During the breakup I met with his friend for lunch a couple times. No big deal... well tonight we hung out and things took a wild turn and we started messing around. My ex is already talking to someone else. This is a good friend of his but not best friend. We only dated a month. And its been a month since we broke up as well. I kind of like his friend but have been brushing it off because I don't want to start problems between them or look like a "floosey". Is it ok to continue down this path with his friend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2013): I dated a guy in college, we split up, and awhile later I dated his friend.Big Mistake.We didn't last, and to make it worse, the guys stopped talking to each other, and STILL aren't friends now...15 years on.I still feel bad about it.But that's my story...it could work out completely different for you.You have to go with your heart!!Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2013): I don't really agree with the previous posters... I have the most wonderful man ever and his best friend is my ex! I dated said ex for only a short month and suddenly realized that I was better suited for his friend. I started dating his best friend two weeks later. Granted, he didn't mention it to him for about a month. But... there you have it! We've been dating for over a year and it's been more amazing than words could describe. If you think you have a good chance with this guy, take it. Your ex has moved on - so why should he care? Have fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2013): I 100% agree with sugarplum- if you jump into bed with him too soon (anything under a few months) you will likely come across as a floozy... Even if this guy has got good intentions, it will be broadcasted around that you had your ex, then his friend, and it's so early it could likely go pear shaped...
Morally it's fine, your ex doesn't sound like the nicest of guys, he has no right over claiming your happiness anyway. Just take it slowly with this new guy cos I think this is the best course of action for most relationships anyway!
Good luck :) xx
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (11 September 2013):
 Well, the best way to find out, is to hold off having sex with is friend for at least three months and if he is still around, he is really interested in you. You will have to stop contact with the ex.
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