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writes: Ok so I met this girl through my cousin that i really like, i met her at the movies....and she found me on my cousins "myspace" and we started talking and whatnot, she told me she was 15 and I was 17 at the time, I didn't know if it was alright to date her, so i never really asked her on a date I just kind of talked to her, and then i turned 18(in july), and she is still 15(she will be 16 in feb.) Then one day we were talking on A.O.L and she says, "when are you going to ask me on a date?", I didn't really know if i should pursue at the time, because i was confused and didn't know if it was right to date a 15 year old. So in simpler words, is it alright to date a 15- almost 16 year old when im 18? and we have already discussed the sex thing we are both religous people and don't believe in having sex until were married, not that we will get married.. but yea, alright i am done typing... sorry 4 the long "question" so to speak more like a story. haha, thanks for the help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the response. I finally did ask her out, we had a good time and I really like her alot, I can't even describe how much I like her. But yea I thankyou for the help because It was really bothering me about the age gap, and I wanted to get some opinions to see if I was doing right. I am a responsible guy and I know I should be the responsible one in the relationship because I am older and if I ever do change my mind about having sex, I will wait for her I wouldn't pressure her in any kind of way. Thankyou for your time....Bye!
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reader, Nyx  +, writes (5 December 2006):
 Oh gosh yes!
I'm also 18 right now also, and trust me, in a few years when you two are both in your early twenties, a three or two year age gap hardly makes a difference! And even for a super religious devotee, this is honestly not a major gap. Don't worry about it and just ask her out! =)
There are times where I would disagree with any relationship - no matter the age gap - if both of the individuals are in completely different stages of life. Unless, they could come to a compromise, it usually doesn't work. For example, if you had a three year old child, and you're ready to settle down, I'd advise aganist the pairing between you two. But I'm sure you're both in the same life stage (exploring and pursing your interests), so there's no need to ponder about it.
Yet however I agree with the first poster - if you ever change your mind about saving yourself for marriage before she turns 18, just wait until she does.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2006): yes but dont be tempted to the bed thats when its wrong it will be fine if you two feel love you should follow your heart but whatever you do hes too young for legal sex ok hunnie
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