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writes:My uncle was recently diagnosed with bowel cancer after prolonged suffering brushing the problem under the carpet hoping it would go away he is 70 yrs old and had always lead an active life style he had surgery last week to remove it tonight i visited him in hospital and his 1st words to me were im dying this upset me and i shouted at him he was very confused most of the time but knew who i was he kept talking about his nephew,my father and his sisters and how they were all down at the pub as he saw them there its been over 20 yrs+ since they all passed away some say that you see your loved ones prior to you joining them in the spirit world how true is this or is it a myth Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (28 February 2012):
 I don't know... my mom died 16 years ago and I like to believe her family welcomed her to the bridge with open arms and that all my pets are waiting for me there too...
I do however believe that our souls come back in one way or the other to check on us and take care of us while we are here on this earth...so when a ladybug lands on my shoulder in February when it's 30 degrees I greet it with "hi mom"... my friends have learned to just go with the flow there...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 February 2012):
 First off I'm sorry for your uncle. Second of all don't shout at him, even if he did scare you. Thirdly, if he was just out of surgery he might be a little "loopy" from the medicines so do take what he says with a grain of salt.
If it makes him happy to think they are all waiting for him at the pub is that such a bad thing?
Whether it's true or not that some people see loved ones at the moments before passing I can not say. I have to say I like the idea of it, I think it would give me comfort knowing that I wasn't all alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2012): While I don't personally believe people see their relatives before they die (I think they 'see' memories more clearly, instead of something in real time), my mom, who is a nurse with veterans from WWII, Korea etc., says it happens all the time.
She often has said that 'she knows when a patient will die' because they'll start saying how they saw their wife or brother or sister the other night or earlier in the day (and not in a creepy way, but more of a relaxed, happy sort of way). The interesting thing, however, is that many of her patients suffer from Alzheimer's and talk gibberish most of the time, but when they 'see' their relatives, they talk fairly normal. It's as if they had nothing wrong with them and were 'hanging' out with someone or a few people the night before, meanwhile they've actually been in a hospital bed all day.
What will happen to your uncle is anyone's guess, and you can't control it. But keep a peace of mind knowing that they may be going somewhere without the suffering and pain their present condition provides. My mom has often said that they seem very peaceful before they go, despite having failing health conditions.
All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2012): I do believe in reincarnation and ghosts but I'm not sure about what people may see when passing. When we are close to death we may be able to see and hear things we normally can't. The only close relative I have who I was near to at their death was my mom and she was in a deep coma. I agree with not yelling at your uncle- whether he is going to die or not, you need to let him just talk to you and say what he is feeling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2012): While I have no proof I do sort of believe it's possible for people to see their dearly departed loved ones when they are close to death. Those who believe in Jesus, may see him as well. I have read a few books about people who have had near death experiences and shared their stories. Again I have no real proof, just a general feeling of warmth and peace that the afterlife is not something to be afraid of. If you know Christ, have always tried to do the right thing, followed the prinicipals of the Bible and have tried to live a clean life I do believe there is peace in the afterlife and it does include loved ones who share in your spiritual beliefs.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (28 February 2012):
 I'm sorry you're being confronted with this difficult situation. It's terribly difficult seeing a loved one in such a state, not being able to help, and worrying that you will lose them.
What he said may well have been a side effect of the medications he's on. Powerful pain medications are well-known to induce hallucinations. No one can know, for sure, what one sees when on the cusp until it happens.
Please don't shout at him for acknowledging that he may die. That brings him no comfort. He may recover and have many more years with you, which of course would be wonderful. But you must understand that death is part of living, and that denying that fact to someone who may be terminally ill doesn't necessarily help them. Let him talk. If he's accepted the reality of his mortality, you make his journey easier by simply listening, and by letting him know he's been important in your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2012): considering that everybody who might answer this question is very much alive this will be a tough one to answer love,I'm sorry about your uncle though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2012): My Grandfather had a stroke at 89. My Grandma was with him and annoyed he was slurping his soup all over the place and making a mess. She told him to slow down, what was his hurry. He was going nowhere.He told my Grandma his cousin came to visit him and told him to be ready to go, he'd be back for him.My Grandma thought it was his alzheimers. But he looked up at her and with clear, steady eyes told her, Old Woman, if I had to do it all over again, I would marry you. I love you. I always loved you.He finished his soup and my Grandma cleared it all away. She sat beside him. He smiled and winked at her. Layed back on the bed. Smiled.I'm ready to go he said as he voiced his cousins name.Then gone.Yes, I do believe in such things. Not everyone is blessed with such knowledge and such a send off.
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reader, Deagan +, writes (28 February 2012):
 I think that has more to do with religion and whether you think religion as whole, or a specific religion, is a myth or not.
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