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writes:heyy okay so i really really like this guy and he talks with other girls and walks with other girls. and i get really jealous but then i realized that he talks and filrts with me way more. but i cant help that i get so upset. okay so my question is it a bad thing to get so jealous over the little things
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 February 2010):
 If you consider those as little things then you should be able to get over those feelings or ignore them.
You cannot help having those feelings. It is natural in a girl.
Jealousy is possessive love. You want him all to yourself.
A little jealousy is normal but if it involves wanting to control that person then it is bad and dangerous.
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reader, Mickey2492 +, writes (24 February 2010):
No of course not, infact its perfectly healthy in my opinion, but you shouldnt allow it to control you to the point where your bugging about everything he does. Insecurities can be a normal thing if taken in the right direction but if you question everything about him than try to work on it because that may be the deciding factor on whether or not itll work. Also keep in mind you 2 arent "bf gf" so technically its ok to be jealous but he also has the right to choose who he talks to and who he wants. If you 2 start dating, really only than do you have big power to talk it out and work it out, just try to bot control his life( its hard but just try).Also, dont be afraid to tell him how you feel, but make sure he doesnt take advantage of you by only talking to more girls.If you notice ges doing it on purpose, than you need to ask yourself if thats someone you wanna be with. If its anything ive learned with my ex gf, its all about trial and error and just being honest. If you make a mistake, simply take it and learn from it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2010): I don't think you are being unreasonable feeling jealous about your boyfriends actions around other women. One thing you need to ask yourself is, how much does it make you jealous and how unhappy does it make you feel? If you feel it is becomming too much, you should talk to him. Ask him why he flirts all the time and tell him how it makes you feel.And if you notice a change, you will know he is taking your feelings into consideration. If he doesn't take it on board, I guess you need to work out if this is what you want. I happen to believe all men flirt. It's just that some show it around their girlfriends more than others. At the end of the day, if he always comes back to you then you both are fine. If he likes you enough, he will at least try and not flirt when you around.
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