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writes:Hi everyone I have posted here before but now a different issue has shown up in the same matter.I am posting this here cause it has been spinning around in my mind for weeks now and I am not able to find any answers.I would like to know what other people think, maybe a few fresh views on this will help me to finally get somewhere.So, I have this female friend that I have known for a year now. We met around last Christmas and since then a very close friendship has developped. I fell in love with her about last summer and so far I have not had the courage to tell her about my feelings.She has not had relationships with women so far but we have spoken about the subject a lot and she always said she would not consider it a problem if she was to fall for a woman one day.We go out together a lot and we speak about nearly everything. I would say that as friends we are very close. I cannot judge however whether she feels attracted to me. Sometimes I could swear she feels the same way that I do and then right after that I am sure she is not interrested. There are just so many mixed signals that I am too confused to sort it out.Maybe I am too pessimistic cause I think that would be too good to be true or I only see what I want to see. I don't want to fall into either trap.She thinks I am attractive and she has mentioned on various occassions that she thinks I am a very interresting and fascinating person. Of course that does not necesarily have to mean something.I just can't guess how she feels about me and plain asking is something I don't consider.My reasoning has always been: I will let the friendship develop and see what happens but is that wrong? What if she does like me and is just too shy to act on it?What would be worse, to make a move now and by that scare her and maybe ruin a friendship, or to miss out on a chance of love because I just waited to long?What if it was just to early? Maybe she is developping feelings for me and if I now rush it, it will blow up in my face. I have thought about this so much and it all comes down to the question is it a bad idea to make a move at her in this stage of our relationship?I appreciate any kind of advice and insight on this.Thanks in advance
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reader, BigSambo  +, writes (25 December 2010):
Thanks for the info.
How do you dress in front of each other? Do you intentionally dress less to show her more of you? Does she do any of that? Have you hugged her tight braless?
I guess you can take the tight hugs further by doing other things such as holding her close to your body, lowering or dropping your arms and feel her lower back or even lower, lol.
Thre is always more to ask and know to really suggest or say more about your situation, but it is interesting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2010): Hi
I will try to answer your questions and give you more info on the situation.
She might suspect that I am bi but I have never actually told her flat out.
I do give her a lot of compliments. We greet eachother with real tight hugs. And that is also the way we always say goodbye to eachother.
We are both single right now and she has no love interest at the moment.
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reader, BigSambo +, writes (24 December 2010):
There are missing info about you in order to kind of advise you what to do next. Info such as ... Are you open with her about your orientation? Does she know that you are bisexual? Have you given her compliments just how she gives them to you? How do you greet each other? Do you hug close or close and tight?
Knowing more will help evaluate your situation and possibly advise you how to move forward with this relationship and plan a careful move to get to find out how she feels about you.
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