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writes:Am writing again, about what I wrote before, about the rose's, well women are saying to me, that I shouldn't of walk out right after wards, cause she didn't say anything nice to me about it, I've been told, she might of thought, I was breaking up with her, an when she tex me, saying thanks for all the gifts, I wrote back the next day, I will never forget the dance, bye bye, the women told me she might of thought, that was me breaking up with her too, so ladies, could she have thought that, I was, yes I was pouting, I plan this dance for two weeks, I have a heart an feelings, I just wanted to make her feel special. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2015): you are looking for someone who understands you but you are giving out mixed messages.you are impatient and abrupt and you are prescripting what your romantic partner should say or feel.You write the opposite message to what you feel and then expect your partner to magically understand you.You may be extravagant and theatrical but you are difficult to get on with.Who wants roses strewn at thier feet if they are the precursor to some future scenario thats already prescripted in your mind or head.It wasnt a happy event because it resulted in a break up.I would stick to less ostentatious ways of attracting attention in future.Its ok but its not exactly doing anything that wonderful...they are an old fashioned kind of compliment for an old fashioned kind of guy.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 December 2015):
 If your mother taught you to treat women with gentleness, why did you walk out on your date without even a " drop dead " ? Why did you answer a kind thank you note with a dry, curt bye-bye ? . Was that " gentle " in your opinion ?...
No you won't change, I can imagine that. Which of course it's your right. Only , generally when you keep doing the same thing in the same way, you keep getting the same results.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2015): Hi, I like to say to the woman, who wrote in to my question, thanks alot, finally, a woman gets where am coming from, I do try to treat, the woman I have feelings for special, just cause this last one , ghost me, an ran,I won't change, thought about it, but I wouldn't know how, my mom taught me to treat, a woman, with gentleness, I have something special to give to a woman, that is my heart, you made me feel good, thank you
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 December 2015):
 Did you ever think to ASK HER what would make her feel special instead of just assuming?
IF you sulked after she didn't swoon over your petal dance perhaps she was HAPPY you walked out and left...
Could she have thought you were breaking up... yeah she could interpret it this way.
So now what? was that the last contact you had? IF so what do you want to do now?
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (15 December 2015):
I don't think so, .... but she might have thought that you were throwing a tantrum ( as you were ) and being too high maintenance emotionally, and she might have not liked that, and decided to let you stew in your own juice...maybe for good.
And, being all over her , gifts and rose petals and all, the day before, and "bye bye " the day after ?? This is blowing hot and cold big time, and while a teenager may be intrigued and attracted by the "mystery ", a sensible grown up woman , in general, will be turned off .
Yes ; I get it that you got your feelings hurt. This may happen at times, with everybody, with any friend or lover, and 9 out of 10 times they never meant to hurt you and don't know what you are hurt about. In these cases, you talk, you explain, you show where you are coming from AND also make an effort to see the same thing through THEIR eyes from their perspective, and hoperfully you work it out. You don't just pick up your toys ( or your rose petals ) and exit the sandbox in a huff.
Anyway , who left whom and why, isn't that a bit of a moot point ? This is the lady that will only see you once a week , "take it or leave it " in her words- and you want way more . So, it sounds like a big mismatch regardless...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2015): You seem to be one of the good ones.Let me tell you something. If a guy planned a special dance for me for two weeks and used rose petals, I would think he was pretty special to go through all that trouble! So if she doesn't feel special because of what you did then she isn't all that special herself.Go and find yourself a woman who will appreciate your efforts.
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