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writes:I was wondering, i have been dating my boyfriend for a while, but we live far apart (about 5 hours. And well the other day he asked me if id watch him masturbate, cause that would really turn him on. So I did and i also took my top off. I was kinda turned on is that wrong of me...my mom always thought me not do do things like that.. but i do love my boyfriend and it turned both of us on so is it really wrong? ps. yes i have seen him in real life and we visit each other about once a month, and we have had sex. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2013): Its not morally wrong for to do that since both of you enjoy it and are both adults and its not harming anyone. But it is foolish of you to do it because you are putting yourself at risk of disastrous things happening in the future.
He could be secretly recording you. (You don't know him that well so this is very possible). If so, a video of you could end up on the internet. Especially if you break up.
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reader, isitok +, writes (7 June 2013):
isitok is verified as being by the original poster of the questionid like to respond to the person who said that it not really a relationship that im haveing. 1. who are you to deside what a relationship is or is not. ok enough of that , id also like to say that i moved away for work i have known this man for many years before dating him he is from back home , so i trust him with all my heart thx for you answers, ill be very careful, you all have been very helpfull:)
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (30 May 2013):
 As long as you know for a fact that he isn't recording you, sharing these private times or anything like that, then I see nothing wrong with this. You love him and he loves you, it's like phone sex but visually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2013): Your mom gave you excellent advice. You're not proving love to your boyfriend by disobeying your mother, and ignoring her advice. Your defiance will comeback to haunt you. What if this boy decides to breakup with you?If you are so naive that you don't think he will not share these pics with his friends, than you shouldn't even conceive such an idea in your head. You don't know what you're doing. Plain and simple. So many foolish girls have sent sexually explicit pictures to boys, and they end up on the internet or spread to smartphones all over school. Then these poor girls become suicidal; or ostracized by mean-spirited people quick to rush to judgment against them. Your parents could find out about it through other people, and you would be embarrassed to a degree unimaginable at this moment. Thinking you are proving your love for your boyfriend by doing something that can be potentially harmful to your reputation, and well-being; is very wrong and foolish.I am glad you sought more advice before doing it. It means you are a very smart young lady. Your mother's advice should have been enough. She loves and cares about you.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (28 May 2013):
 Oh yeah, everyone's right here. The internet is forever, and it just takes one ex with a mean streak to make you an amateur porn star with some nasty caption underneath it containing your name. Imagine what could happen if potential hiring managers were to Google your name and "Hot busty slut wants your fluids now" pops up under your Facebook and LinkedIn pages?
Yeah. Yikes is right.
You might want to keep it live and in person at all times, and leave the video and webcamming to those who get paid for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2013): It's not wrong but it can be dangerous.
I would be recording that if I were him, without a shadow of a doubt and most guys I know would.
So no matter how much you trust him, no matter how nice he is there is a chance that kind of stuff could be recorded and uploaded to the internet. You only have to look at the amount of girl bating, stickham/omegle/skype capture videos and ex revenge websites to know how often that has happened. A really nice guy, who originally just wanted something masturbate to when you weren't online gets hurt by you or the break up and Bob's your uncle, you masturbating on video sent to everyone you know as a link to a website that won't take it down.
Morally there is nothing wrong at all, it's you and your bf maintaining some sexual fun in your relationship that's 100% okay. But it can be risky in terms of recording it. And yeah OP, I'm a good guy but I'd definitely lie about recording it to you. That shit is far too valuable not to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2013): Completely fine especially since you've already had sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2013): Hi, is he recording this show? Ar eyou comfortable and trust him that it is a private show?
If you are comfortable and trust him not to record or show anyone, have fun, but remember when couples split these kind of events become and embarassing past!
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