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writes:Is it possible to not be able to bypass the stage of friendship with pretty much all your friends? I know some people can become lovers after friendship, especially after a long one, but I can never seem to find myself more attracted to someone who I’ve always known as a friend. Not just one or two, all of them. Does that make me weird? Recently I’ve been thinking about asking my girl friend to start a relationship but then it sort of creeps, me out. Kinda like *gagg* uncomfortable. Reply to this Question
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reader, YouWish +, writes (28 May 2013):
 Some of my closest relationships started out as friendships and blossomed from there, but you don't have to force anything! If you're not attracted to your friends, then don't put pressure on yourself. Maybe go on a dating site to meet people with the express purpose of NOT putting them in the friend zone.
As for this friend you're thinking of wanting a relationship with, why? If it creeps you out, then don't do it! No pressure! And if you ARE attracted to her, then don't go saying something like "Hey, wanna start a relationship?" That's weird. Just ask her out on a date and play it cool.
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (28 May 2013):
 I'm exactly the same. I don't think that makes us abnormal. Some people are attracted to their friends of the opposite sex, others are not. I never am. It doesn't mean I'd rule it out if I made friends with someone and developed feelings for him, it just hasn't happened to me. Friends are one thing, boy/girlfriends are another in my world.
I wouldn't worry about it if I were you, and I definitely wouldn't ask a girl out that you are not attracted to just because you think it's what you should be doing. That wouldn't be fair on anyone.
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