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writes:I have been having a "gut" feeling that my husband is getting a little too close to one of his secretaries...I recently found numerous of personal texts to her from him and vice versa. Nothing real out the ordinary yet...but i feel it's getting a little too close and a little too personal...i confronted him about it..and he said it just them blowing steam about the office, boss, etc. but he only deleted the more personal things..and left the texts that would be more job appropriate. He swears there is nothing there..i know they are sleeping together, etc...he wouldn't have time, but are they getting closer to "IT"...? Am worried...and he said he would stop texting..but i know she won't...I know she has slept with married bosses before..what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): You could say, "I really don't feel comfortable with her texting you all the time. Isn't she the woman that sleeps around?" This is a clear signal. And really, would he want a guy texting you with a reputation? I wouldn't say anything more..just let him think. And don't bring her name up again. If he does, then change the subject or look bored and find something else to do.
As the others have said, we can't control them. In the mean time, how about planning a weekend getaway with him. Get out of town and refresh yourselves...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys....i hear you and know your points..........will try just to see....thanks again
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reader, eddie  +, writes (5 February 2009):
 You've made your point. Since I don't know you or your history it's a tricky situation. You could be an overly jealous person. He could be cheating. Nobody really knows for sure. But, you have made your point.
Unfortunately we can never control other people, only influence them. It does not make you a fool to have trust. We are supposed to trust. We are supposed to value trust. As partners, we are supposed to allow are spouses freedom t omake errors. We can only hope they don't cross lines. It would make your husband a fool for abusing or not valuing your trust. He would be throwing away something that takes time to earn. You can not control him, the secretary or anyone else other than yourself. There may be an attraction between them, who knows.
I know this probably gives you no relief but I think it's the truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's me again..and let me rephrase this...i know they AREN'T SLEEPING TOGETHER...I WROTE IT WRONG..BUT EVERYTHING ELSE RIGHT,...THANKS
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