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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:So I dated this one guy (we'll call him X) the summer between sophomore and junior years but the timing was really off for numerous reasons. The last couple weeks, though, we started hanging out again but my ex (we'll call him Z) and I just broke up two months ago after a two year relationship and I'm still not completely over him yet. I refuse to let 'X' be a rebound guy but I don't want to be selfish enough to try and make him wait for me. He told me he would wait but I will eventually feel bad for allowing him to do so. How can I get over my ex quicker and finally give my full heart to guy X?
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reader, Artistry +, writes (4 February 2009):
 Hi there, Time is a factor in most relationships, how long you were with your ex is a factor. You look at the end of a relationship as a sort of death, sorry to be so forthright, but it is. A joining of two people just ended, and if you loved the person, you have to grieve the loss of that person, you shared things, including each other. For a healthy end you must feel the pain and give it a chance to subside, don't try to rush it, because if you do and you are not over it, you will not be able, in my opinion only, to start a new relationship, with a clear view of giving the new relationship time to grow, something will always come up about the past and comparisons. So, take your time if you can, be honest with the new person, but rush not or there could be regrets. You have to clear your emotional system. Take care, I hope I helped you in some way. You can busy yourself with non-boyfriend related things, but give it time. Be good to yourself.
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