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writes: My b/f of a year is going to a bike rally in myrtle beach for a week in may. I am having a hard time trusting everything will be innocent. I spoke to him about my worries such as him drinking and making a mistake(cheating) and he says i have nothing to worry about and he thinks he can last a week without having to look for someone else. I do believe he is not going there to cheat--but i feel like things happen--especially within a week, drinking and girls around. I actually went online a looked at photos of the place..and a lot of girls go around topless and the bars have girls wearing close to nothing(i guess its part of the entertainment)--here is a link of pics of one of the bars.(if you don't like nudity dont look please) http://www.suckbangblow.com/board/gallery2.php?g2_view=core.ShowItem&g2_itemId=4862&g2_pa He tells me even if people are drunk--they know what they are doing such as cheating or not cheating. And he told me--"even if there were girls topless and all these guys are looking at them, do you think thats the girl i'm gonna go after just because she is there" He says how long will it take me to get he isn't like that--has anyone been to this thing before? Do you think i should just trust my b/f even in this type of environment that he will stay true to me??? HELP
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006): Sounds like a good sign to me. Try not to sound too worried on the phone and encourage him to have a good time.
Basically if things are all good with your relationship, he'll not even be tempted by anyone else.
Good luck over this week, I genuingly think everything will be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello, its me who posted the question
My b/f is there now for the week. But he has been calling me atleast 3 times a day to say hi and when he is back at the hotel with the guy he is staying with. He gave me the hotel phone number for me to call if i need him or call his cell. Do you think i still need to worry?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits me who posted the question--my b/f is 30 and i feel i donot need to worry about anyone pressuring him. I think that is more of a younger thing peers do. So you believe that a guy in a relationship who says he loves me and is happy--would just go away on this thing and cheat the first opportunity he gets b/c i am not there--doesnt that mean though he could continue this behavior when i get back--obviously i cant monitor him home all the time either and he cheat here too just as i can cheat very easily when he is away. Still dont know what to think-but know i can't say--you arent allowed. Help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2006): dont be fooled by his little game. of course he's going to cheat on you. he' going to get tempted and his buddies are going to put pressure on him and or get a girl for him. sex is the only thing that runs through a mans mind and if he had a chance to get with a hot chic he is. i should know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2006): It sounds to me like you have other issues besides the fact that he is going to this. It sounds like you don't trust him at all.
He says he wouldn't do any of those things that you mention, so what doubt do you have against him. Has he in the past done things that made your trust for him go away. Most good guys are loyal to their partners and wouldn't want to do anything that would ruin that. It often happens that they try everything they can to show that they should be trustworthy.
So the big thing you should be asking is what has he done for you not to trust him? If nothing, then the envrioment should not matter and he should be able to stay in control.
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reader, soletshearit +, writes (5 May 2006):
 To be honest having looked at those pictures of course you would be feeling a little insecure but I think that there is more to it than just this weekend...you must have had some sort of similar feelings or distrust or worry before this.
You need to figure out if underneath there is something in him that you do not trust or whether it is just your insecurities.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2006): i saw the photos. if it was my husband who was going i would say, im going with you or you not going, if he had a problem with it i would find something for just me that he wouldnt like, just so he knows how it feels. or would freaten to leave him to save myself the worry about him cheating. good luck x
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