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writes:Ok so I have a strong attraction for a much younger junior guy in my line of work. We get on well, are both single and have a definite chemistry (e.g. laughs and jokes, tease each other etc) and although I look quite good for my age, I feel I'm still too old for him (over 20 years difference).The other week I asked him if he had my work number (to test the water so to speak, and try and get a bit closer to him) incase he needed to get in touch, but he said his boss had it - so I said no more. However, next week is the last time we'll be working together and we were both talking about our holidays etc and then he asked if I had a calling card to give to his 'work friends' if they needed to contact me. I said yes I'll pass it on next time (as I didn't have one with me)So now I'm thinking is this his way of asking for my number? I mean if so - why didn't he take it when I offered the other week? And who are these 'work friends' exactly? Surely they could ask his boss for my number themselves. He also asked who I was going on holiday with and I replied family but didn't make it clear it was siblings as opposed to husband and children, so I feel I have sent him mixed messages.I fully intend giving him my number next week - but do I give him my calling card or just my actual number to show him I want to stay in touch? I'm too scared to ask him outright for his. Where should I go from here??
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (6 June 2019):
 "Don't sh*t where you eat".... What will happen if you ask him out and he's not interested or if you try to date and it doesn't work out? Are you happy to change jobs and/or be the centre of office gossip? Some people do meet their partners at work, but it's usually best to wait until one of you is leaving the company.Aside from that, how well do you know him? You work well in a professional environment, but how much will you have in common with someone his age - both with him and his friends, if this went anywhere? What can someone his age offer you in a relationship?I feel like this is perhaps just a subconscious ego boost for you and you'd like it to be more. I don't think anything you've said gives a great indication of him being interested and, if he was, would you be hurt by a hook up or him telling colleagues about you two?I'm afraid that, at your age, you can't be "scared" to ask him. If you are, it's because something feels off; it's not a sure thing. When asking someone for their number at work, it HAS to be a sure thing because your job environment is on the line.Have a business card ready, just in case he asks again. If he doesn't, then leave it and just move on.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (6 June 2019):
 He is a coworker and a MUCH younger one to boot.
While I am NOT a huge fan of BIG age gaps, I know it works for some people so that is NOT the biggest concern.
But you work together. So if you misread him or it doesn't work out, HOW awkward do you think it will become? Especially if he is younger and hasn't learned to "not kiss and tell" - would you REALLY like you personal info and details out there for OTHER coworkers?
He ASKED for you calling card, so I'd give him that.
And I'd dial back on the looking for romance in the work place. He might not have much experience there, but you SHOULD have a little more common sense.
Ask yourself, Could you really date a young man, young enough to be your own son?
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