A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok, so I'm in a odd situation. I'm a college freshman and I go to a small private college (around 1,000 students). Anyway, for about 3 months now I've been seeing this same guy everywhere, even if I change up my schedule. I see him about 3 times a day or so. I can live with that, but what concerns me is how he looks and his behavior toward me. Lets call him Jim. Jim is a really muscular jock with a naturally intimidating face. But, when ever I see him, now he will scan the room till he finds me and will stare at me for a few seconds. Sometimes when were eating in the same dinning hall he will sit behind me and stare at me. Whenever I walk by him he watches me the whole time. All this stuff happens at least once or twice a day.Last night we were at a popular spot to hang out on Thursdays with music and everything (not a dance). But, anyway I threw my trash away and walked back to my seat. When I got back my friend told me that Jim followed me in the exact same way I went but he stopped behind a post. I was just a few feet away from it.Basically stuff like this happens everyday. I'm not very experienced with guys so I'm honestly confused if he's trying to scare me or if he likes me. I would greatly appreciate any comments about what people think. Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 April 2014):
 I'd try the saying hi first.
If that gets a weird reaction, I'd talk to a school counselor/teacher and ask when you need to do.
His behavior (in my eyes at least) are odd.
If he normally is a social butterfly it is doubly odd that he is "stalking" you and not trying to interact.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have my Facebook on private basically. I havn't ever tried saying hi to him, maybe I'll try sometime. I don't think he's too shy, he's basically a social butterfly. So, idk why he's like this with me.
...............................
A
female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 April 2014):
Do you have a Facebook (or other online social site pages) that is view-able for anyone? or have you set your privacy setting?
If you have some and they are PUBLIC - get your privacy setting added.
Specially if you are one of those people who post what they are doing 24/7.
I don't know if he is being shy or creepy. But obviously you find him intimidating, which could be your gut instinct that he is in fact stalking you, not trying to get to know you.
However, before you get too alarmed, you are also from a small college so the likelihood that he participate in the same events as you is not really so far fetched.
Have you tried to just say hi to him? Maybe that would be easier to gauge what he is doing.
If he is just a shy guy he might not know that what he is doing can come off as creepy and intimidating.
With all that said, I would suggest that you do not go out alone after dark.
He basically been stalking you for 3 months. So maybe you should consider talking to a counselor at school and figure out the best way to deal with this.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe does both, sometimes he will look away and other times he will just keep staring.
...............................
A
male
reader, Z15511551 +, writes (5 April 2014):
When you look back at him, does he look down or to another direction or does he stare right back at you? If he looks away, then he is just a shy guy who can't man up and say hi to you, if he stares back in a creepy manner then maybe u have a problem that you should seek help about.
...............................
|
