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writes: I have been seeing my boyfriend for about eight months. Every thing has been alright, except that we have had one longstanding problem of attention. At first, I was always the one complaining that he was not giving me enough attention. He would like always be ‘busy’ for me and would really ‘enjoy’ me always ‘crying’ to have more time with him (from what I could see),. This was eating me up. I complained to him several times, but nothing changed. I finally decided to ‘have my own life’ and not to worry so much about him not having enough time for me. Now, sent me a text that he has been having bad feelings ‘like the ones I used to have’ and wants to be alone. I can see clearly that its about me having stopped demanding for attention and giving him all the time in the world that has made him feel that way. I have suggested we discuss, but one thing am sure about is that his pride wouldn’t let him admit that that he needs more time with me. How can I handle the matter? I know he still loves me and I love him and he just wants a way to get attention from me.
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reader, sarcy24  +, writes (28 January 2010):
 Yes CaringGuy is right. Men don't do subtle gestures or subtle nuances at all - when he says that he wants space - he wants space. i also agree that your boyfriend is now angry that you are no longer crying and attention seeking which he obviously so enjoyed. He has lost that power over you. I would leave him alone for a while. He is acting spoilt and childish and isn't enjoying the 'shift' in your relationship. Well whether he likes it or not he is going to have to get used to it. No I don't think your boyfriend is trying to get your attention i think he is just pissed off with the situation (which is his own making and he knows that) and he will eventually calm down and come back to you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 January 2010):
8 months into it and you're already having these problems? Seriously, it doesn't seem like he's the one. Generally, guys don't do hints and subtle gestures. When a man says he wants space, he wants it. I just don't think this is the guy for you.
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