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writes:I have this guy friend, I think we are quite close and very good friends. But I am not sure if he just treats me like a friend or he likes me as a girl. We are in the same work place, and there are several things he does for me that I feel quite touched, but again, he is a caring guy and has quite some close female friends...i dont know how to judge.When I think of leaving this workplace, and he knows I like plants, when I suggested I wanted to plant some seeds, he volunteered to go with me and some other friends. Afraid that this would fail, he took some seeds homes and plant them himself. and when they sprouted, he excitedly told me, and said he wanted to persuade me not to leave and he told himself if the seeds sprouted, he will persuade me to stay. He took the pots from his home to my work desk for me.When he has to go on business trip for 3 weeks, he told me he is afraid that I'd feel cold, so he left his jacket with me, I already told him I dont need and I had my own jacket, but he said he is afraid it's not enough. However, previously I did mention I felt cold in office, and he lent me his jacket before and I accepted it, just for once.i emailed him about some difficulties in workplace while he was away for business trip, and he replied at around 5am, sayingi completely understand your wound, and wish I could be there with you...and I didn't reply, at 10am, he emailed again, I wish you can completely ignore her actions and not get affected at all, and focus on your work and health (as I have a minor health problem)! And to that I replied I am fine, don't worry and he didn't reply anymore...When we go for dinner together, he usually buys me drinks and refuse to have me pay him back. Sometimes, he will treat me dinner or lunch when we are alone and also doesnt want me to pay back..everytime we walk together, he will make sure I walk on the inner side of the road further away from the traffic.And when he found out i am suffering from a certain illness (not very serious), he went on to research on it and send me some recommended diets, and he read that vitamins will help, and bought me different types of those vitamins and don't want my money again.There was once when it's raining, and we shared an umbrella. he held the umbrella with his left hand while I walked on his right, and he kept asking me to go into the centre of the umbrella, and used his hands to pushed my waist gently so i moved into the umbrella more..Does he like me or trrat me like a sister/ very good friend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks JDinCali!! :)
but I am afraid to assume that he is interested, as I personally think he has quite some female close friends, I am not sure if he is treating everyone the same way or treat me in a more special manner. I don't know if those actions mentioned are just done out of his kindness for a friend, or they meant something more...
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reader, JDinCali  +, writes (16 February 2011):
 Seems like he's trying to involve himself in your life so, I would say he's interested.
Ask yourself: How do you feel? Do you like him?
It's possible he's waiting for you to tell him how you feel...regardless if he's expecting that or not, you need to tell him how you feel.
If you decide you want him, reciprocate by caring for him and ask about his interests. If you don't start showing him you care, in a romantic way, you might jeopardize your potential with him. I'm sure you've hear communication is the key to having a successful relationship and it's true!
From an outsider's perspective, he deserves something awesome for being such a great guy! ...like tickets to his favorite sports game and a kiss on the cheek. ;)
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