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female
age
30-35,
*heSahammy
writes:I've been in a relationship for a 1 year and 4 months. At first everything was alright but I began to notice he was too clingy on me, but at that time I didn't mind. He called me every day, even if we took classes together and in a week I saw him more than 10 hrs per day. I didn't mind at first but it got to my nerves, every time we talked it was always something negative about his past (how he hated his mom, he never got along with his brother and everything negative that had happened to him).I didn't mind listening to him, but when he fought with his brother for calling his mom foul names, I began to doubt him. Then I began to notice he was dependent on me for all of our classes (I had to keep him up to date in everything and keep him in order), then I noticed he doesn't eat if I don't eat with him (he doesn't care if I overeat as long as I accompany him). A month later of that I got an old iPhone and I noticed how many times he called me during a normal day (over twenty times, highest number was 28). I told him he was calling me too much and to give me some space (only lasted a day), around 3 months before that I began to have panic attacks because every time the phone rang I got so nervous I ended breaking something (my phone a few times, controls, I once nearly dropped my computer cuz' of the stress it gave me).Now I've been begging him to give me some time, to not call me so much, not to visit so early, to give me time to clean my house and many other things I don't have time to do cuz' he is always on top of me. Ever since I've been with him my physical health has been declining, my mental health is on the edge but every time I get better there's always a step back because I try to follow with treatment. I've been drinking pills to sleep and relax myself because I'm always a nerve-wreck, when he keeps asking more from me and I can't give him.All I just wanna' know if is he being too dependent on me that's draining all my energy and making me sick? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2011): Yes I do think he si too dependent on you, and that is draining your energy. I am afraid that if he can't respect that you need space, you may have to end the relationship because your health will only drain you more until you can't take it anymore. I was once with someone who was like this and unfortunately I didn't take the warning signs from my body and ended up having a breakdown. Take care of yourself first. Good Luck.
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