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writes:ok so i have been best friends with this guy (lets call him D) for 2 1/2 years and we are really close. a few months ago my friend text him from my phone telling him that i really liked him (which i do) and he replied 'wow im speechless'.a few days after we were talking to each other and he told me he really liked me; at first i didnt believe him because he had spent that day with one of my not so close friends (who is also his ex) but then he told me it was the only true thing he had said that day. at the end of that week i went to town with my other friend (lets call him N); but N and D are always competing for girls and N normally wins (he is also my ex). when we went back to collage D and me were closer than ever and would constantly hug and lean on each other. a couple of weeks later he stoped talking to me and blanked me completely; i asked my friends for advice an they said he was either properbly trying to copy N's normal jerky behavior around me or N had told him i went in to town and then made up something to make himself sound good. D started talking to me again after 2 weeks and i never found out which reason caused him to ignore me. he has left collage now (hes a year older) we harly talk. My friend (his ex) started telling me he is in love with her and that the day he spent with her they spent it snogging.when i saw him yesterday he hugged me and kept hold of me for ages. i am so confused. i dont know what to do about all of this. am i a mug???? and is he taking me for a ride???
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey the second answer is really helpful thank you... erm the first person's answer is a confusing as my mind (no offence) thanks anyways xxx
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reader, marycontrary  +, writes (27 June 2009):
He might really like you. Or he might not like you. My guess is he likes you so-so. You might finally end up together. Is that the goal? Is that what you want? Do you really love him? I don't get the sense that you have an unbridled passion for him either. You just want to find out if he does. Well, he doesn't. If you make yourself available he'll just be going along with it. What self-respecting woman wants a relationship like THAT!?
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (27 June 2009):
To be honest it sounds like hes a bit confused too, his immaturity has taken over and its changed him for the worst. Some people are blinded by competitivness.
If hes having his fun then let him, but just for the record never go on what his ex says, actions and words can be twisted due to jealousy. Maybe you need to show him you too can have fun, do your thing and let him do his, if hes does like you and hes genuine then hell come back.
Never spend your days questioning yourself or another, as soon as you go down that path you know somethings not right.
Your not a mug at all just dont play to his tune a minute longer, i cant say for sure if hes taking you for a ride but theres obviously trust issues for you to have to ask.
No trust = no future.
Dont believe all you hear, Best of luck
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