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writes:Okay, so there's this guy and i like him and he likes me also, i know this because he told me. so he is like a bad boy type and he drinks and stuff like that and he also flirts with girls but he doesn't even realize when he is doing it.He has kind of a bad reputation of like having sex, being aggressive and cursing people out. But he has NEVER EVER done that to me before and he is nice to me and everyone thinks that he is going to start getting aggressive towards me soon and he is going to stop talking to me really soon and they say that i am just a fling but when i asked him he told me that he is a senior and he doesn't have time for flings and that he likes me and is very serious. so now me and him are talking and we kiss everyday on a regular bases and everyone asks me if i go out with him and i tell them i don't know because he never asked me out. All his friends always tell me that he HATES kissing girls and he never kisses any girl but he likes kissing me, he calls me his baby and boo and stuff like that.He told all of my friends to make sure that i don't "talk" to no boys and he doesn't "talk" to no girls except for me. And one day my friends just got tired and approached him asking if we go out and he said that he doesn't know. so later that day he tells me that he really likes me but he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now and that he doesn't know why but he said that he really really likes me.I think its because its his senior year and he is trying to have fun(which would explain why i would be a fling) We still kiss and stuff but never more than that. Everyone says that we act like how a regular couple would act but yet we don't go out and they are saying we are very stupid for that. So now i don't know what to do because he is a senior and i am a sophomore and people are telling me that he going to take advantage but he has never talked to me about sex and he says that he doesn't want sex from me. he gets moody when i talk about others guys regardless of whether they are like brothers to me or not. Some of my friends don't approve of him but i like him. So is he taking advantage? does he really like me? will we go out eventually? What Do I Do??? HELP!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): You are still being niave. Like i said, he's not going to admit he's still a player because then you wouldn't give him what he wants.
He told you he doesn't want sex because that's what you want to hear. Yes, he hasn't dissapeared straight away because he sees you as a challenge.
If you keep saying no, after a few months he will get bored and move on.
If you really believed he has changed you wouldn't be asking for advice on DC.
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reader, LoveStruckk10 +, writes (5 December 2010):
LoveStruckk10 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhen i asked him about his reputation he said that all of that is in his past and he doesn't do that anymore because he doesn't have time for that.
Also he knows my name and he calls me by my name as well as calling me baby
I also told him that i will not have sex with him if we dont go out and if im not ready and he said that he never wanted sex in the first place ad he doesn't care about it, and he is still around after i said that.
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reader, soon567 +, writes (4 December 2010):
You describe a guy I would run away from my kid. He's going to treat you like shit because that whom he is so get use to it. Of course he want sex from you, can you be attracted to some you would never sleep with. He's an alcoholic or soon to be one sounds appealing to you. I would let this on go let hom be some of girl problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): If this guy has a reputation it would be wise to stay away from him.
Just because a guy says he likes you it doesn't mean he does. He has a reputation and there's a reason for that.
He told you he likes you but doesn't want a relationship right now. That is absolute BS.
If he liked you he would want a relationship with you. If he doesn't want a relationship he shouldn't be kissing you.
He might have told you he doesn't want sex but trust me he does. You are being a little niave by believing everything he tells you.
He flirts with other girls but "doesn't realise he's doing it". Oh, he knows exactly what he's doing.
"He has kind of a bad reputation of like having sex, being aggressive and cursing people out. But he has NEVER EVER done that to me before and he is nice to me"
Of course he's not going to show you his true colours straight away, if he did he knows you'd run a mile. When he gets what he wants (sex) you'll see the real him.
He also sounds pretty controlling. He calls you "baby" etc more than likely because he has quite a few girls he "likes" and it's easier then having to remember their names.
I'm really not trying to be mean but guys like that prey on girls like you and i hope that you realise this guys true intentions.
Best wishes.
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