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writes:So I've been really insecure that my boyfriend hasnt been as interested in me because he hadn't been as affection or wanting to hang out as much. I don't think there is someone else because we work together and are constantly in touch with each other at all times. We were living and working with each other for awhile but i decided to move out because i didn't want to live with his parents. We are planning on moving back in with each other but are saving money for awhile til we do so. I have been asking him a lot recently why hasn't he been as affectionate and letting him now that I've been insecure at how he has been treating me. So he finally told me that he thought that we needed a break. I'm trying to be respectful of this because I have asked for a break myself in the beginning of our relationship. We'll now we have been together a little over a year and are more established. He tells me that he still plans on marrying me and he still loves me but im scared that taking this break will just pull us further apart. He says he just wants to make sure that his heart is still with me and needs time to himself. But I'm just hoping that he means it when he says he is just taking a break and isn't slowing breaking up with me? any opinions?
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (16 April 2009):
 yeah i understand what you mean i mean he's probably just letting you know he does want to make things work and go back to the way they were and he's just letting you know he is still thinking of you and he still cares alot for you and appreciates the time and space you are giving him to sort himself out :)you have really good self control as to responded only when he texts or calls you shows you're understanding he needs his time and space hun trust me it'll be sorted before you know it :)at least you're not flooding him with calls and texts and pushing him further away you're showing him you understand he needs time and space to think and just responding as and when he gets in touch with you :)really proud of you!!!strong girl!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice. i've been giving him his space and only respond back to him when he texts or calls me first. i saw him at work yesterday and he told me that he misses me alot already but just wants to be sure about everything before he says that our break is over. Which is confusing because now that he gave me that lil bit of hope i want to start texting him and contacting him like normal but i have the feeling that just because he says he misses me doesnt mean that he wants everything to go back normal.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (14 April 2009):
all i can suggest is that you give him the space he needs i mean you said you guys work together and lived together that's a bit much for a one year relationship living together and working together just give him the time and space he needs because if you do end up cluttering him he'll probably lead it to a break up but if you give him time and space alone it'll make him realise that he does still want to be with you and that his heart still feels for you.that's all i can propose really just don't smother him too much keep your distance until he lets you know what's going on.Hope this helps :)message me you need any more help.
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